I (20M) have a girlfriend that I’ve been with for a bit over a year. She’s great; wifey material. Really couldn’t ask for a better girlfriend. The thing is, the thought of moving in with her at any point in the future kinda sounds unappealing or even straight up bad. I really value my alone time, and when she is at my place for much more than 16-24 hours, I kinda just wish she would leave so I can be alone. What does this mean? What should I do?
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Work on establishing your boundaries regarding alone time.
There’s a difference between someone being in your space and developing a shared space with someone. If you lived together, you could hang out in different rooms or do your own thing in the same room. She would actually have her things to keep entertained, and it would be her space too.
You can still have alone time when you live with someone else. Communicate with your partner about what you need.
The good thing about living together is making separate spaces for each other. Just because you live together doesn’t mean you need to be around each other 24/7