Finally, after a long time, I matched with a man on a dating app. We had been chatting for quite some time already, and he seemed pretty chill, so I figured, why not meet up? I decided to just wear my usual go-to outfit because he said he wouldn’t mind, since he mentioned that he also dresses like this most of the time. So, I wore my favorite oversized shirt, cargo pants, and my plain white shoes.
When he texted that he was already outside my house, I grabbed my stuff in a flash and headed out. I saw him standing by his car, but as I got closer, I noticed his smile faded into this weird look. We said hey, and once we were in the car, he straight-up said, "You look like a man. You really wore that on our date?"
And that's when realization hit me. He was expecting I would wear something very feminine. I told him I was sorry about it, but the silence during our car ride was the only response I got. Even when we reached the coffee shop, our conversation was very dull and limited… everything felt awkward, and I know he's probably not interested in me anymore.
Our date barely lasted an hour. He didn’t even drive me home, just said he had other things to do. A part of me felt guilty for dressing like that. I was stupid to think he’d really be okay with it, even though he knows I don’t feel comfortable showing a lot of skin.
And I know how important first impressions are, but I literally asked him the day before if it was okay to wear that, and he said it was fine. Funny enough, he was wearing sweats, and I didn’t say a word.
Now I’m wondering if anyone would still love me for who I really am.