So there is this woman who was my neighbor at the apartment I just recently moved out of. We didn't really speak for the whole year, but she became acquainted with my roommate first, and he invited her to our party to celebrate the end of the lease.
I met her and we instantly hit it off. She is a deeply emotional, creative, and spiritual just like I am, and we got really deep and vulnerable very quickly. From our conversations, I could sense that we felt and saw things deeply about life in a similar way.
She asked me for my number so I could send her the name of this book, and then the following morning, she texted me a poem she wrote. Since then, we've exchanged each other's art, and I've taken her out on two dates so far. Our second date, we got really close, physically and emotionally – I held her hand and told her how much I liked her, and we kissed at the end of the date.
But the thing is – as I'm catching feelings for her, something feels very wrong. And it's the fact that she wasn't initially interested in me, and was more interested in pursuing my friend. She was our neighbor, and she would run into me often, but was typically very curt with me and never made conversation. But when she ran into my friend, she invited him to hang out, and I guess they hung out 1×1 a couple of times, but it never really got intimate beyond friendship.
My friend even told me that she had told him that out all of us, she liked his "vibe" the most when they were talking and before she met me.
I don't know if I'm just self sabotaging this or if I'm just the "seconds" guy.
Any advice? Should I just call it off? Bring it up to her?