Long story short I had sex with my wife, but it was very late and we had to wake up early, she was into it, but wasn't really keen on having to take a shower before sleeping, so we agreed that I would not cum, because of this I focused more on her than usual, we normally start with oral but this time she just kissed my penis and gave me a short lick, I've eat her out till orgasm, PIV followed, since we were mostly focused on her, she chose the position, cowgirl and grind herself to another orgasm, we then just hugged and felt asleep in each other arms. I've never felt like it, I loved the fact that I didn't cum and was focused on her, I've told her about it, but she just kind of brushed it of and said that having me cum is the best part of sex for her.
So I've just discovered that I love this thing, but my wife is not really into it, off course I will respect her wishes and she won't mind doing this from time to time, but I feel that is just for my sake and she doesn't really enjoy it, my question is simple, is there something lost in translation ? How can I better pass the message that I really enjoy this dynamic and have an get a lot more pleasure from it that having an orgasm ?