Why did you stop using tinder/bumble?

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1. I found a relationship in the real world, deleted the app the following week.

   Matches were sparse to start with, nothing but bots and flakes.

2. I stopped after a few months when it first came out because it just felt all too superficial and didn’t find the appeal of it anymore.

3. Mostly bots and whores. I was there for a relationship.

4. Stopped using Bumble because I got into a relationship (not through online dating, ironically enough). I had decent success on Bumble but there are a lot of…and I’m being charitable…”*Interesting*” people out there.

5. I would get matches but nobody wanted to talk to me or they would get bored almost immediately. Everybody had “grass is greener”
   syndrome

   as well as me personally being boring and ugly

6. I repeatedly stop and restart on Tinder because even though I enjoy the swiping, I never talk to anyone on there due to a lack of approach skills.

   I dropped off Bumble because the last conversation I got on there was an icebreaker of “what’s a cause you’re deeply invested in” and I responded “men’s rights” and it went downhill fast from there. Not the kind of women I’d be interested in dating.

7. Stopped using Tinder after less than a month. The whole thing just straight up felt like a scam.

8. I found a girlfriend on there. If this one doesn’t work out, I’ll probably be back on it.

9. Because 1s were ignoring me & I pulled 7+s IRL

10. My mental health was in a downward spiral. I was looking outward for love when really I needed to look within. Doing better now, but I have no plans of returning to dating apps.

11. It’s not made for people like me.

12. Main reason? Cause I’m an ugly 40 year old male who will never be able to retire. The other reasons don’t matter.

13. I got into trouble at work for stumbling into a colleague’s tinder account before (?), but even before that, it was a complete and total waste of time.

14. Bumble is ridiculous. What an awful idea to have women make the first move. When 9 times out of 10 women don’t fuckin make the first move.

    So I’d get matches and just see them disappear. Such a dumb idea

15. Because 90% are bots, while the very rare match would either answer only 1 word/sentence responses, wouldn’t ask questions in return or carry a conversation, or would chat up great but suddenly unmatched when I asked for their number/if they wanted to meet

16. It’s a lot of effort and I got tired of it. also I wasn’t meeting many people I felt interested in. maybe every once in a while I’d get a match that seemed good, but most people in my area aren’t really my type, and there aren’t many people using bumble around me unless I want to drive an hour or more. The last woman I met on there lived like 3 hours away and I think that was part of why things didn’t work out, but she probably just realized she wasn’t into me.

    Also I feel like I need to fix some of my own problems with intimacy before I date again.

17. Found my girlfriend!

    But otherwise I was goin to delete it because frankly online dating is a hellhole most of the time with the ocassasional good connection

18. I found my girlfriend on there and haven’t needed it since.

19. Chatting to women on Reddit

20. Because I realized that brushing my teeth with a wire brush and lithium grease is healthier for me than staying on dating apps, I don’t get laughed at for it either.

21. It was a waste of my efforts and it was making me feel worse than I actually am.

22. Because 6 in 10 matches were bots, 3 in 10 matches were women trying to get free weed, and the remaining 1 in 10 wouldn’t help carry a conversation. The experience fully convinced me that dating apps are a really dumb way to try and meet people

23. Had real world relationships with some of the most beautiful and intelligent women I had ever even known in real life. We’re talking women who could would easily be classed as 8s and up. On dating apps, I can’t even get a single bloody like! The likes I do get are just bots asking me to visit their cam sites. Its soul crushing and utterly demoralising. The imbalance and advantages women have over men on these things makes it so unlike the real world, its almost laughable.

24. When I was 20ish and unmarried, Bumble was not there but Tinder was.

    A lot of profiles I came across were either bots or the user didn’t even bother to put something about her or profiles were too generic.

    How does every woman in Tinder loves travelling or cats or dogs or loves sense of humor.

    There was nothing about them that I found intresting enough to making me wanna meet them, let alone date them.

25. Didn’t need it after my first date off tinder with my wife.

26. I had way better luck on POF, but quit all of the apps cause I quit dating to just do my own thing, otherwise I’d probably go back on POF.

27. Because dating apps suck

28. If I’m gunna swipe that much I might as well have a wank