For context the other day my girlfriend and my buddy and myself were all hanging out by a fire and talking and the discussion of me and my girl doing anal came up and I said something about how she wanted to make a deal that she gets to do it to me first ( pegging), I’m open to it, I’ve done it before with other women I’ve dated. But what struck me as odd was she stated she wouldn’t want me to enjoy it and doesn’t want me to ask for a dildo in my ass while we’re having regular piv. I told her it’s not something I would ask for in the moment, we would plan it ahead of time.
Another issue is she actually jokes about doing it to me all the time but has stated before that she’s very timid when it comes to sex and in my opinion in very vanilla 1-2 positions, she does have toys but i had to kinda gently push her into them. Is there anyway to communicate to her that there’s nothing wrong with me enjoying it and that she might like it as well?