Since the beginning of our relationship (24F-24M) (around 7 months ago), his mom has signs of not liking me. I have many conversation with him about this, and it remains the same on her side so I’m too tired to try to get her warm up with me (yes i tried a lot)
So we don’t hang at his house a lot at all. Recently, he just graduated but he’s been having a hard time finding a job (yah we live in canada), so he asks me to post about baking desserts and i just took orders for him.
Bcs im renting and my roommate is a mess so we have to cook at his house ( actually not we, him because i only make post and take orders). His mom got back and ask “so what you two doing? Is that what you do now? Just making [dessert name]?
It affects him a lot and so we have to move to my house to cook. Then we got it to a big bake fair of the city, and while we do need help and he has his relatives here (I’m international student but he’s a canadian) yet he refuses to ask his mom / aunt to even help. So i keep having to stay up till 3 to do all the stuff (aside from baking). We botched it a lot since we don’t have enough strength for our first 3 day event.
And while all this is happening, me and him we apply for H IM a lot of jobs as well, got lots of rejection. But we keep applying for jobs if we don’t have orders / finish our orders (always stay up till 2-3). Today he got a job that pays $22 but it’s a front line / sales job
He just told me that he is sad since it is not an office job, when I’m sure he said before/ while we apply for jobs together that he can work as anything. I feel like this is just him being embarrassing to tell his mom or aunt about his job because he really does care about their opinions (they want him to have an office job)
I just don’t know what to do in this relationship, because I really tried to say hi, get to know his cousin, helps cook for his mom sometimes when we have baking. I stay up with him a lot to apply for jobs, edit his resumes, linked in etc. just to see him always get awkward with his mom whenever i am around just bcs she always has an opinion about me, just to see him not even happy when he has a job (it is not a great job but still better than nothing). I just feel burnt out and i really don’t understand what my feelings are. I don’t feel envious or jealous of his job, if anything, i do want him to get the best job. I always feel smaller than who i am when his mom is around and i think he does care about her opinion (being awkward around her when im there)