hi there! first, some background. i (22f) am in a fairly new relationship. i was best friends with my current bf (22m) for years and we’ve been dating since june. we also live together.
i knew for a while before we were together that i was going to marry this man. i have no doubt.
every part of our relationship is perfect, but something in the bedroom is maybe a becoming a bit of an issue.
to put it bluntly, i cannot reach an orgasm.
i have never been able to reach an orgasm. i’ve never climaxed through masturbation (idk why it just isn’t something im comfortable doing) and never really came close with my previous bf.
for months, my bf tries (almost daily, sometimes multiple times a day) and i can’t allow myself to reach a climax. i tell him i want him to try.
he goes down on me and it feels amazing, and i truly want to reach a climax… but every time my body freezes right as it builds and i have to stop him.
don’t get me wrong, he’s been so amazing through this. right after i tense up my body gets super cold and he always holds me and tells me he loves me and that it’s okay.
i’m getting frustrated because i have no clue why this is happening. i know for a fact i want to. i’ve read places it can be a control thing, but i don’t think im scared of losing control? my bf tells me it doesn’t matter and that he just wants me to feel as good as i make him feel, but it’s starting to affect my desire to be sexually active. i’m getting less motivation because im not receiving that satisfaction.
at this point, ill try anything! i need the girlies suggestions 🙃