I’m sexually experienced enough to know what I like and what I want. I’ve had great partners and not so great. I used to be more open to developing sexual chemistry over time, but I realized that sometimes it’s just a natural connection that can’t be created.
I’ve been sleeping with my FWB for 8 months and the first time we hooked up, we clicked immediately. He likes pretty much all the same things I do, we have the same kink level, and we just know how to pleasure each other with minimal coaching. We’ve slept together around 1-2 times a week this whole time and the sex is ALWAYS mind blowing. It’s insane the amount of sexual compatibility we have.
It’s addictive and frankly not healthy for me. I’ve tried to end things with him multiple times and I’ve given in every time because the sex is just too good.
I tried to end it with him again recently when I started dating someone new but once I had sex with the new guy and the chemistry was completely off, it was over and back to my FWB.
Sex with the new guy was just not great. He would jackhammer a lot and tbh the shape of his dick was not for me. I love how big and thick my FWB is and it fills me up in all the right ways. While the new guy was long enough but thinner and it just didn’t fill me up the same way. The new guy also never came and just did a lot of things I wasn’t super into, like the way he moaned and talked to me was not very hot.
Meanwhile my FWB has the sexiest moans and I love it when he dirty talks to me. He knows all the right things to say. He also is always holding back his orgasm, in a hot way. Like I love edging him but he has great control and never cums prematurely. He always makes sure I’m satisfied with my orgasms before he cums. It’s super hot.
And the new guy had a lot of trouble cumming which tbh I’m not a fan of because it’s not as exciting to me and it’s extra pressure. The sex sessions also end up being way too long and I get tired/uninterested.
I wish I didn’t have such high standards for sexual compatibility because my FWB is not someone I would date long term. But I feel like I’m missing out on some genuinely awesome guys because of it. But I think sexual compatibility is so important and I don’t feel like I can let it go.
Any advice? I feel like it’s like looking for a unicorn to find a guy I’m compatibility with both in and out of bed.