i (22f) am dating my bf (24m) for around 6 months, this weekend we were talking about our past and stuff l and asked a lot of questions about us (me and my friend) that I didn't care to answer, but then the questions started to be more about comparing them, I told him that our relationship is different cause I love him like a bf but the sex that I had before was not bad, since then he started to get overly jealous about it a d idk what to say cause it's literally my past, i can't change it lol, he said stuff like "why you didn't wait to lose your virginity with me?" but i didn't even know him! i don't know how to talk sense into his mind
ps. he was a virgin, so his first time was with me.
pss. i never dated the guy that I lost my virginity, we were fwb
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Insecure man, not much you can do.
“The only time I think about old boyfriends is when you ask about them”.
He’s definitely just insecure that you weren’t a virgin but he was. There’s really nothing you could do besides to tell him to basically get over it. 🤷🏼♀️ you’re 22 years old and don’t have to be sorry for sexual experiences you had before you even knew the guy PERIOD. 💅🏼 tell him to grow up, and that he’s acting like a teenager
He’s got insecurities and you can’t really fix that for him. Either he works through that himself, or well every relationship he has will probably have problems. You did nothing wrong, if he can’t handle the past he shouldn’t have asked the question. So don’t put it on yourself to fix.
I bet he doesn’t only buy gas from 1 gas station, use only 1 restroom, frequent only 1 restaurant. Having other experiences doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy something different. Even if your favorite food is pizza, doesn’t mean a good pasta or burger doesn’t hit the spot just right sometimes.
People have REALLY stupid expectations when it comes to sex. Virgins tend to create all kinds of weird shit around it. For general purposes, don’t answer questions you don’t want to or you know the person asking can’t handle the truth to. “I’d rather not talk about my past”. If they keep pushing, they definitely can’t handle the response.
“If you’d like to learn exactly how to please me, I’m happy to teach you and experiment with you. What anyone else did, or didn’t do means nothing to our sex life”.
I think you’re going to have to bottom line this for him. You didn’t do anything wrong. It’s okay for him to process feelings, but it’s not okay for him to make you feel bad about your past. In particular given your past seems fairly ordinary.