Maybe this is just self pity but even at like 6-7 my family said “oh she’s going to grow up to be a mean girl” or other things along the same line. And I’m not trying to be mean I’ll just observe something or make a connection and I’ll have no ill intent or want to be harmful it just comes off that way. Or it’s “you’re so mature for your age” which turns into “you need to grow up. You’re just very immature”. “Why can’t you be like so&so.”
“Just don’t say anything.”
“Why are you so weird”
“you always ruin everything.”
The advice assumes you’re a good person naturally or a person people want to be around.