So I (22 M) feel like i don’t have the right ‘moves’ that one should make in order to take things forward. I can carry a face-to-face conversation really well, but there’s no or little flirting involved in that and I’d like to up the ante on the flirting bit. I just don’t know how to! I get very nervous in initiating simple physical touch, thinking the other person might not be comfortable. Pls help me out!
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Help is easier said then done in this case. it depends on both some girls are really into physical some girls not.
So you need to find the right one I think asking stuff like can I kiss you sounds bad but is something really good
When I am on a first date I will casually touch the girls forearm or back while I’m talking. I do it maybe two or three times during the entire date. At the end of the date when we walk to her car I will initiate a hug and see if she leans into it. If she does I’ll give her a kiss on the forehead or the cheek. That’s all I do. It shows that I am respectful but also shows that I am interested. Then on the second date since we have already broken the touch barrier it can escalate pretty quickly after that.
What’s plenty of dates? Do you get a second date? The lack of “flirting” may not be the issue here. It could just be it’s not a good match or something else.
You don’t need any physical contact or much flirting to get a second date. Flirting is pretty broad too. Some people’s idea of flirting isn’t flirting to me or not my style.
My advice is focus on the date. Are you having a good time? Are they? Are you making eye contact? Are you making them laugh? Are you having an actual convo or just answering a list questions?
Is their body language suggesting they even desire physical contact? I find that a lot of men get in their head too much rather than focus on what’s in front of them. You shouldn’t put pressure on yourself to escalate physical touch on a first date because you’re going to be more focused on that than your date.