Guys I’m 43f
Smh
I have been in a connection with a man 44m for over a year and he played too many games and didn’t treat me with the energy I deserved and we eventually had the talk about ending things peacefully.
We had some on/off moments through out the connection, and they stem from the fact that he is still very much entertained with his ex. They have not finalized their divorce and he really had no business getting involved with me. And now there are feelings. But they have a child (a teenager) and they are not reconciling m. She knows about me and doesn’t like it and has even texted me and stalked my IG. She also confirmed everything he had told me to be true. So mostly things are on the up and up. He says he feels bad. The relationship wasn’t sexual – we did hook up a few times but that’s over the course of the year. And HE pursued me. 100%
Even to the point of EMAILING me when I had him blocked on text and socials, followed by telling me he’s in love with me. Anyway it was always situationship vibes and totally not my style. It felt like I was a secret. I hated it. I’m cool with being the new woman but not the other woman. And even though they are legitimately separated, it didn’t feel right.
Every time we were “off” he was always the one to come back.
I got tired of it and we ended things peacefully.
A week went by. I accepted a date with a new guy and I had posted just a clip of the restaurant we went to (a really nice place) for lunch. Well
Situationship guy definitely sensed it (and I knew he would)and he viewed my story after zero contact for a week… popped back up like he always does. But this time he saw that I’m done sitting around waiting for him to treat me right, and not available for the shit show anymore.
But I really would go back to him if he would act right and treat me right.
Anyway, now he blocked me on IG.
I feel like I want to say something to him. Because I really do want him to be the version of him that I thought he was. But he was just in the stuck energy and I get it. divorce is a pretty major life event.
Not sure what to do
Should I reach out?