My boyfriend (M30) and I (F31) have been together for 2-3 months. Generally we have a really good relationship, we align on so many things such as what we want in life, our beliefs, values, and the seriousness we want out of our relationship.
The problem: he gets upset, bent out of shape, irritated, etc about most things. He has a very vibrant and fun personality but with the slightest inconveniences he gets upset and low. For example:
- he planned to play his video game (I don’t mind him playing) for the evening but then plans have to change last minute regarding family
-he usually has to get up early for work on Saturdays and if I don’t tell him I’m staying at his house a little longer and to leave his garage opener for me to bring to him later, he gets upset that I didn’t tell him ahead of time (I’ve done this multiple times before so didn’t see it as a big deal)
-being slightly late to ANYTHING
-if the time changes to something last minute
-our plans change slightly last minute
-when his family nags him about playing video games so much
-etc, etc, etc.
He doesn’t raise his voice at me or anything, but I can always tell when he’s upset because his demeanor/mood changes or he’ll tell me later on when he’s “calmed down” what I did that he did not like. We usually can talk about it and hash it out and move on, but in reality to me, I didn’t think anything I did was big enough to warrant getting so upset over. It’s starting to bother me a lot and just wondering if this is just a communication error on my part or if he needs to relax more. I don’t want our relationship to end so trying to figure out how to finally nip this and settle this issue once and for all
TL;DR: boyfriend gets upset about minor inconveniences and small things how can we fix this