Hi all! For context im 34F and I was in a relationship with a 26M. I originally thought our age difference would be an issue but he continually reassured me it was okay and he knew my timeline with marriage, kids, etc. He said he wanted the same things in the same time. We had a very amazing connection from the start. After 3 months he told me he loved me and I obviously told him I loved him back because I did.
We had a lot of deep conversations. He told me he could see a clear future with me. I know this was a little premature but it just felt right. Last weekend he said his family wanted me to come to Miami with them for Thanksgiving. He said I could think about it and get back to him but he’d love for me to come spend it with them and him.
The only issue we really had in our relationship was that we only saw each other once a week for 4-5 hours. We did live 50 min apart but I still felt like it wasn’t enough (and we wouldn’t even sleep over, he never wanted to do sleepovers). He also worked 50-60 hours per week doing outside labor so he was usually tired which I understood. That was the only thing we sometimes argued about (me wanting to see him more). I was even cool with just chilling and spending the night together (sleepover). The last week he was being more distant than usual so I asked if everything was okay – he told me he felt like our age difference was too much and he can’t give me the things I want (marriage, kids, more time, etc) in the timeframe I wanted. He blocked me on all social media and unshared his iPhone location immediately.
I was stunned. He told me he did love me but he also has to think about himself because I’m only able to have kids for another 6ish years (even though we discussed this MULTIPLE TIMES and he was adamantly ok with it). He also said he was sometimes drunk when he would tell me he can’t wait to have a future with me, etc. (I mean I didn’t notice he was drunk but maybe?) I know we only dated for 4 months but it was the first guy I met in years that I finally opened up to and I was so excited because I thought we wanted the same things. He now is super cold towards me and wants nothing to do with me, when the previous night before we broke up he was gushing about how much he loved me.
I’m so distraught and I feel so dumb for crying so much over this. I feel so deceived. Has anyone else gotten really shaken up over a breakup of short relationship? I’m really struggling 🙁