I was talking with a guy on a dating app and we set up a date. He was sweet and smart-he didn’t give any kind of objective red flags, except(if you can even consider them red flags) seeming a bit sad and lonely. However, I got intense anxiety about the date-started searching for safety tips, which I never felt the need to do before. I was just very, very scared.
I cancelled the date(it wasn’t the only reason, but it played a part). One of the recurring safety tips I found online was “trust your gut”. Was it my guy or just anxiety speaking? Obviously I’ll never have an objective answer, but I think it’s an interesting topic.
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one time i had a very off feeling about a guy. he seemed very dodgy about questions on where he had lived before. i only asked bc one of his prompts was the 2 truths and a lie thing. luckily, he put his full name and it was easy to look him up. he was accused of rape in several states. enough for it to make headlines. i reported him on the app of course and blocked him. while being vague isn’t much, it was enough to make my uh oh alarms go off and be nosey.
So you’re one of those girls that make online dating toxic. Why even set up a date if you’re gonna cancel 🤢🤢🤮🤮
Well . did anything about him seem off to you vs being lonely?
And since we don’t know this man, we truly can’t tell.
This sounds like your anxiety tbh. You didn’t give us any reason to believe you were in danger.
I’d say it’s mostly anxiety because I have social anxiety and have done what you have done too many times. But for a female it’s especially important you be careful when meeting up with a guy from a dating app. A lot of weirdos out there. If your gut has concerns I’d trust it.
Well, with that kind of logic, you should never leave your flat, lest something bad happen to you when you’re out and about.