How to be a better friend to people in life?

I feel like I have friends but I’m not too close to them.

I know texting goes 2 ways, but it can also be me who reaches out to some people.

I feel like I keep people at a distance and don’t get close especially to women. Any advice?

I feel like a lot of life advice is focus on yourself, be alone. But I’ve kinda been alone my whole life so it’s weird to tell me that. I’ve never had a girlfriend.