We've been together since January 2020 and got married January 2023.
Last fall we had an extreme rough patch and she was going out to the club/bar constantly with her one friend who, to put it nicely, really likes men.
A few months ago she went on and on about this time we" had sex when we were so drunk that she puked into a bag and we just kept going. I'm fairly certain that wasn't with me, since A. I have no recollection, and B. I haven't been able to perform after a few drinks since about 25 and she was certain it was last year.
Then a few nights ago I found evidence of her getting an STD panel and HIV test done.
We just had a kid, 1 think, I'm less than 100% sure, especially since the conception date is roughly a week before her tests were done….
While 1 am planning on getting an at home paternity test (I will get another one through the courts if she isn't mine, I just need to know) done when I am able to swing the $100 or so (she's been out of work for a few months now, and the company handling my PFL has not been getting back to me so money is… tight, at the moment) the wondering if my daughter is actually my daughter until I can is going to kill me.
TLDR- during rough patch wife was going out constantly, got an STD panel done about 3 weeks before we found out she was pregnant
Update- confronted wife, she owned up to an "emotional affair" at first that "didn't get physical", then he showed up at her job and they kissed, and when I asked if that was it I was shown a video of her at the club grinding into a dude while he felt her up. I'm sure I can find more, though, I'll keep updating