Im too socially anxious and awkward. I overthink and it affects my confidence when it comes to speaking.
I end up becoming so superficial, shallow, air headed, and boring. Because i simply do not know what to say ever. My head is empty. And even when i do have something to say idk how to make it sound interesting and bring enthusiasm to it.
People always seem more excited to be with other people than me because I’m just awkward and quiet. I don’t understand how people always have something interesting to talk about.
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Getting a hobby then using said hobby to communicate with ppl. Talk aboht what your hobby is and what their hobby is. Talk about favorite songs/games/activity and comnect. Then when you have gotten to know them reveal more info about u that is less superficial and more deep when it naturally comes up in conversation.
You have to have an interest and zest for life. Meaning find joy and fun in everyday things. This is something people find so attractive because you are interacting with life, and can find the fun in it. Try to cultivate a “having fun mindset.” You look at pan and woop it looks like Albert Einstein, joke about it, don’t take it seriously. Be like a child, a lot of adults are stressed over life or raised to be serious and unable to let loose and just have fun. Learn this and everything you do will magically become more interesting. good luckk
Watch [this](https://youtu.be/9goOuIy8Ok4?si=ZmHLOnvEVX4zQrAz)
I have same problem like you. I can sit with you in one room and don’t have any word , because I thought what i have to say may be stupid and people frown upon on me.
I have the same problem, it’s the ADHD/Anxiety, when I’m comfortable around people I can be funny, attractive, entertaining… So it’s kind of a mood thing, sometimes my mood just makes me do things without think about it, to react clearer, faster, kinda automatical… it’s no perfect though… sometimes I just blow it.