I have one friend who has been repeatedly hinting that she thinks I don't understand social cues. I've for the most part ignored it since I find her to be overly anxious about social situations. For example there is a class instructor who always gives banter. I typically give banter back. I did when she was there and she was mortified by my clap back… this is routine with that instructor and it was nothing out of line. Not sure if she expected me to bat my eyelashes or cry in response instead?
I'm a fairly social person and can get along with most people at least along the surface level. I've asked multiple reliable friends and they've confirmed that they don't think I have an issue with social skills or cues.
I have suspicions that she thinks I'm full on autistic… I'm not. It likely doesn't help that I ignore her hints, but they're so rude and exclusive to her so I didn't think they were worth addressing.
Is this just a socially anxious person being socially anxious? Or should I keep examining my interactions. It used to be fine but I've found myself second guessing myself more recently due to this and it's started to affect my confidence. I had terrible social anxiety growing up so this was something I worked past and don't want to go back to. It's hard when you're friends with someone who is embarrassed to be around you, so I'm going to slowly back off from her. However, has anyone had this kind of mixed feedback from only one friend?