Okay so here’s some background. 10 years ago myself and let’s call him Bob we’re supposed to go out. Bob was still hung up over his ex so he never pulled through. 10 years later they are not together anymore. He reached out to me. We went on dates and we’re seeing each other for a month. He would walk me to my door, talk to my everyday, tell his friends that he liked me and that it was going good, he invited me to his friends house where his father was (I didn’t go because I wasn’t ready but I didn’t tell him that). Everything was going good. (We haven’t slept together)
The past two weeks he’s been distant. Doesn’t reach out daily, he invited me to meet up Saturday night for drinks somewhere and I told him to come by he ignored that question completely. Monday we were supposed to go out with a friend he didn’t pull through tells our friend but doesn’t tell me. I haven’t heard from him since.
After not hearing from him for days, he messages me on my instagram story. So that confused me even more.
Why do men do this? What could be the reasons?
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No, Bob is not interested in you, because if he really likes you in the first place, he would do anything just to hang out with you. He’s just playing with you.
Damn no sex in over a month 😂😂😂. I can see why Bob would be distant.
He probably didn’t get the reaction he wanted from you and now not sure about you. Some days thinking about you, missing talking to you the other days thinking that you are not really worth it. Don’t message him for a while. If a girl i’m slightly interested doesn’t text me back in 24 hours i’d get really worried that she might move on from me and that would help me really sit down and think about my true feelings towards her.
That being said yeah if he wasn’t even slightly interested in you he would never replied to your story. Men are not good at hiding their feelings generally and want to spit it out in different ways. I think you not turning up in his house really broke him for some reason. Thought you weren’t really into him i guess.
Any question we have has to be asked or we won’t be getting an answer. Communication is not simply talking and guessing. We humans are terrible at communicating.
I know, even for myself that simply asking can be difficult. But as well I know it is the only way to move toward understanding.
Bite the bullet, and do it.
https://www.yellinlaw.com/blog-articles/lack-of-communication-leading-cause-of-divorce/
https://www.healthline.com/health/lack-of-communication#communication-tips
https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/memberarticles/communication-in-relationships-isnt-just-about-talking-to-each-other