LGBTQ+ women who came out in adulthood: how did you first find new friend groups?

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1. I didn’t, really. My friends are straight. I live in a part of my country where we don’t have much of a LGBT community, so it is what it is. I have found community online.

2. A couple of my mates came out later on in life. Luckily for me, they were both still willing to be friends with me, even though I’m straight!! I’m forever grateful!

3. I didn’t. Coming out didn’t really change much for me, suprised a few of my friends that’s about it. I don’t feel ostrasised enough to need the support of the LGBTQ+ community.

4. Turns out we were all gays all along ¯_(ツ)_/¯ so I didn’t have to

5. Honestly, by playing sports. The sapphics love sports apparently.

6. I looked around in my city’s magazine of events. The first group I met was part of a college but they accepted me because I was the right age and had only graduated a year ago.

   LOL! There were only 2 other lesbians in the group, and they were in a relationship so they didn’t really do the group outings anymore. It was more like PaddlesOwnCanoe and the 7 gay guys! Still lots of fun, though.

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8. I came out to my straight college friends and it seemed to go well at first. But then it became a safety issue for me bc my friends would tell their boyfriends and their bf’s friends abt me being bi which somehow translated to me being promiscuous? which then opened the door for threesome requests, being asked repeatedly to prove that i should prefer men, if they could watch, and if straight women could experiment w me.

   I then limited the number of people I came out to and became friends with primarily LGBTQ people