Asking since I’m seeing a man with likely a high libido or atleast profoundly higher than mine while I’m average. What do you wish would be different? Have you found ways to accommodate the difference

11 comments

  1. Compromise
    I was in this situation with my gf. We would comprise on how important sex is to us and to our relationship.

  2. More clarity needed. Does he want to bang it out five times a night and you’re in pain after the second time?

  3. Handjobs and coconut oil can go a long way. Also, its about the quality, not the quantity in my opinion anyway. Mix it up, give the man a handy while in the drive thru. Or a quick job upstairs while the inlaws are visiting. Be spontaneous but EXPRESS AND COMMUNICATE between each other. We can give you all of our advice, but if you two dont talk about the differences itll be tough to come to an agreement.

    Best of luck!

    B

  4. So ill copy/paste from a similar thread I responded to.

    So, I’ll tackle this one. Together for 24 years and married for 19. Our sex life would be charted as a roller coaster. She has a low libido for several reasons, and there have been many peaks and valley along the way. The was also a period where we both prioritized different things and while we never stopped, it definitely wasn’t as frequent. I know on my end, I never really spoke up until recently. And over the past few weeks, it has picked up after I communicated to her. Is it as frequent as I want…no. But, when we do, it is intense and emotional and we are both fully vested in it. I’d take that over frequent encounters that are like clockwork.

  6. I (30m) have a really high libido and my wife (25f) has a rather low libido. Honestly, it’s tough sometimes but I usually redirect my sex drive to working out or creativity. I would love for us to be intimate at least once a week or two (personally I’d prefer multiple times a week), but that’s just happening. We have to communicate a lot about what we like, what’s too much, and we have him/her days where one of us focuses solely on pleasing the other. Just have a chat about realistic expectations and go from there!

  7. As a guy who is fairly over sex at this point, I would struggle being with someone with a high libido, as they expect it a lot more and it can lead to issues down the road.

  8. I kinda gave up asking or the idea he would be interested or initiate ever. It’s not always like that for people, but that’s how it is for us.

    I can’t be turned down if I never ask! So I just don’t bother trying or hoping anymore.

  9. Basically masterbate. I love it when a relationship is new because the two of us are basically at it like rabbits. Then I am sad when the relationship hits that point where sex goes down to a normal amount for the two people. Then I’m left with less sex after the “honeymoon” period.

    So I rub one out when I need to.

  10. It’s never been worked out in my experience. There’s bouts of toleration and frustration.

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