I would say I’m a pretty sociable guy I talk to almost anyone. I am a bit shy, but if I want to talk to someone or someone wants to talk with me I won’t fret to start/continue a conversation. I’ve talked to plenty of women in the past that I’ve liked and things have gone well. I have had a few girlfriend before as well. But for some reason I just can’t talk to this one lady that I like. We both just slightly stare at one another from a far, and I have opened the door for her a few time and she’s said ‘thank you’ very quietly. I know she’s shy. She only talks to a handful of people. I just can’t get a grip and talk to her and the times that I’ve tried to I’ve stopped myself because I feel like I’m gonna stutter all over the place. Idk what to do 😂
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Stop putting this girl you like on a pedestal. Genuinely connect with them as you would do with people in real life e.g. ask how they are, their hobbies, interests goals, opinions, etc. Listen and pay attention to what they say. Share those things about yourself when asked. People also subconsciously attach you to the value you bring. The value you bring is a clear, unique, and convincing reason why people will interact with you, let alone do so constantly. So Find ways to add value to their lives. Having In person interactions is the easiest way to stand out from countless people who text or message. People remember and favor in person interactions because of the positive vibes. If your hobbies, skills, talents align with their interests or can help them, bring it up and offer to help them. Finally, learn how to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with people on the side. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead gravitate towards those who are self confident and well rounded in life. They want to see active confirmation of you actually doing something in your life other than just talking to them. So chase excellence, not people.