I’m really hung up on someone I was so attracted to in every way. We connected on a dating app and talked nonstop for a couple weeks before meeting in person. I definitely idealized what was happening between us in my head. There were some red flags I overlooked because I liked him so much. He also chose not to be fully clear about his feelings and expectations. We met in person and it didn’t go well for a few reasons. Despite this I honestly can’t stop thinking about him. everyone else I’m talking to seems so boring in comparison. I feel like I ruined things with my insecurities (I know it’s not all my fault but the what if in my head still exists). Dating apps are so hard. There’s so much pressure. I wish it was easier.
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Everyone else seems boring in comparison because you’ve hyped him up so much in your head that they are comparing to an idealised, fictional character, not a real person. You met him once and it didn’t go well, you don’t actually know this dude at all, and in reality he’s probably nothing like the person you’ve created in your head. Find an actual fictional character to fantasise about instead of thinking about him. Then at least you can’t convince yourself they are real.