Is sleeping with them before they’re ur bf?

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1. It doesn’t ruin the chances of a relationship, but not sleeping with someone until they’re committed will weed out the people who want to use you for your body. My ex always told me he knew I was “wife material” and always respected that I made him wait. I still hookup with people, but if I’m specifically interested in a relationship I make them wait, and have found it helpful.

2. And earth is at the center of the universe :p

3. Depends on the persons intention from the start. A guy who wants sex will wait and play along and leave. A guy who is into you or wants to get to know you can have sex on the first night and have a relationship after.

   It’s not a hard and fast rule. Personally if I was into a girl and she was doing the wait thing solely because she thought that will weed out those who just want sex, I can respect it but I won’t be hanging around because I will perceive it as games, many girls make guys wait who smash and dash despite the wait and some guys stay after the wait which tells you it’s not the wait that makes the difference it’s the intention.

   Now if a woman wanted to wait because she wants to get to know the person better before making that decision that’s a sensible thing to do and that’s probably how long term relationship decisions should be made anyway. However just saying you won’t give in for a while hoping time alone will help weed out those who are primarily in for sex can lead to disappointment because those who have a plan to sleep with you and bounce may wait you out and genuine people may not play those games.

   Bottom line get to know people before Sharing your body with them is probably the way to go for long term stuff.

4. It is advisable to get firm commitment before sex if you want a relationship with a guy. I know it is a controversial opinion but men usually respect women more that make them work harder for sex.

5. Man I remember this girl I met my freshman year that withheld sex from this guy she saw as boyfriend material because she didn’t want him to think she’s a “slut.”

   Yet she would have one night stands and another guy on the side.

   Imagine being that dude she likes and you put in effort by taking her out and shit while she makes you wait while at the same time she’s giving it up to others.

   Anyways, the dude found out. Stuck around, didn’t say anything…smashed and then bounced.

   I got bare respect for the man and would have handled it the same.

6. If you want to weed someone out or find out their true intentions then making them wait is best. It all depends on the person. Some people want to know that person is committed and won’t run away right after sex… Although, I’ve had guys dump me after becoming official and having sex. Then they say it’s not working out even though they’ll continue to have sex with you leading up to the breakup and you feel used… Has happened to friends of mine too. It’s not a guarantee they won’t leave after having sex. Nothing is in dating.