I (18,m) was at a library in a shopping mall earlier today – I was dressed the best I could, I was full of energy thanks to an energy drink I drank earlier and I was just waiting for the mall’s cinema to open to watch a movie. Then I saw a gorgeous but shy-looking young woman looking for books at the romance section. I have been reading A LOT about pick-up recently and I thought this would be a good way to approach a girl for the first time. I approached her telling a joke about a book next to her (the only one I knew the name lol) and we started to talk about eachother’s tastes and we actually had a lot in common. We laughed and overall it was a pretty wholesome interaction, and when I felt was the right time I said word-per-word: “hey, do you plan to do anything this evening? I am going to the cinema and I wanted to go with a beautiful woman”. She smiled – SHE FUCKING SMILED, but said “ownt, I’m sorry but my father is going to pick me up soon”. I thought she was making an excuse, but went along with it and just carried the conversation normally, until her father appeared and really picked her up. We smiled at each other and said bye, and the second she left I realised I didn’t ask her socials. I’m feeling great because I technically was successful at a pick-up (something I couldn’t even fathom a few months ago, before I started socializing more) and only “failed” due to circunstance, but I’m also feeling like an absolute idiot because I didn’t ask her contact and now I’ll never talk to her again (tbh, I was kinda planning to ask her socials after seeing the movie, but whatever). Was this a good start?
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Pretty solid I would have definitely gone for the digits
> She smiled – SHE FUCKING SMILED
Congrats on breaking out of your comfort zone, but please keep in mind that her smiling and politely carrying on a conversation does not necessarily mean she was into you. After that pickup line, her smile could have easily been a nervous, but polite smile, particularly since she was approached in public.
Also, just my opinion, but saying you wanted to go “with a beautiful woman” is a little… on the nose? It’s very “I’m just scoping for a hot date,” instead of “you seem nice, and I enjoy your company, want to keep this going?” In the future, if someone is into you and enjoys your company, that’s all you need. Good luck!
Go for the digits brah.
I’m always happy for people getting out of their comfort zone, but cold approaching people in public is just not a normal part of dating culture, it’s not a milestone we need to aspire to. Like if you want to meet women who are into reading, join a book club and meet them organically. Or literally just get a tinder account where people sign up knowing they’re about to get hit on.
Approach a line break lol
Awesome! Really happy for you! She’ll probably be back within a week. If I was you, I’d print a flyer, like a lost pet thing, but with your picture ‘lost, one idiot that forgot to ask you for your number’ if interested the librarian has my number’. Or lost, one beautiful girl. If you met me in the romance section on (date) then ask the librarian for my contact info. If she’s interested in she’ll see it. I’m fairly sure the librarians will let you put it up somewhere. If it’s a smaller library the librarian might even know who she is from a description.