How does one stop relying on friends to make themselves happy?

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1. Start doing things by yourself

2. Now is the time to learn how to be genuinely busy in your life pursuing your goals and hobbies, while interacting with other people on the side. That will help boost your self esteem and self confidence. People are hardwired to be repulsed by neediness and desperation and instead gravitate towards those who are self confident and well rounded in life. They want to see active confirmation of you actually doing something in your life other than just talking to them and worrying about them all the time. So find something you enjoy doing and keep doing it overtime. You’ll meet people with similar interests and at the very minimum earn respect from people. Chase excellence, not people.

3. Remember you can’t be with your friends all the time.

   You’ll go insane if you think you’ll get different results if you and your friend just talk about the same things over and over again. Who said that was the definition of insanity again? Anyway…

   …The whole point is to keep them a “part” of your life.

   You go do your own different things, you expect different results definately.

   You feel, you think, you hear, you listen, you vibe, you watch, you read, etc. Different things. Alright, then you come back with new insights and motivation, then you run off on each others ideas and become somesort of a better version of yourselves.