I’m a F21 and questioning my sexuality. I’m wondering if it’s possible to know your sexuality when you never have been in a relationship or had sex before. I’m an inexperienced virgin and confused.
From I was a child to 18 years old I daydreamed only about dating boys. I thought some had cute faces and were nice, but I rarely thought sexually about them. It was more of a romantic daydreaming like going to the restaurant, park etc. Rarely I thought about sex, but more like kissing and cuddling.
After I became 18 I noticed both men and women I find beautiful. I liked conventionally beautiful feminine women and masculine looking men. With masculine I mean tall and beards. Later I changed my mind and stopped liking beards, masculine features etc. in men. Now I like to look at beautiful feminine women and feminine men.
I find both some men and women beautiful facial wise. Both men and women may be interesting, kind, intelligent etc. I’ve never kissed or touched a man sexually, but kissed women before. I liked kissing them. I didn’t have sex with them. The confusing part is genitalia. I’ve not seen naked men in real life, but I’ve seen both genders naked in documentaries and movies. I don’t like the way penises look and the thought of doing anything with them sounds unappealing to me, but I’ve never tried it in real life. I think vaginas look nice. Can I know which sexuality I’ve without having sex before and do a picture show what things is in real life or is it differently? Can I change my mind about penises when seeing them in real life instead of science documentaries only?
**TLDR: I’m confused about my sexuality because I find both some men and women beautiful, but I don’t like what penises look like in pictures. I’ve never had sex before**
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When you look at a man that you find attractive do you want to have sex with that person? How about women?
And your sexuality is gonna take time to decide. There’s nothing wrong with that.
That’s the neat part about growing up is that we’re constantly discovering ourselves. I’d say that’s perfectly normal despite those stipulations. Cheers to you finding yourself and best of luck
Yep. It’s totally possible to know your sexuality long before dating. I never dated until I reached my early 20s, but I knew I was straight since I was a teen because I found women attractive.