Am I being judged, or am I provoking this behaviour from my friend?

Hi all,

I am pretty new to the community, but came here after searching for advice over a weird/bad interaction I had with a friend in our group.

I have this friend with who I was really close but has been really cold to me for some months now for some reason I dont know. We were good friends last year, but something in the way must have been happening so that our friendship got really cold.

For a matter of context, I must say that we have very different temperaments, as I am generally very extrovert and talkative, while she is more introvert and silent.

I tried different things like asking her to go out for coffee to talk over, text her asking if something was wrong, but these didn’t seem to make much difference.

Last night our group met for a dinner because she is leaving for some weeks to home.

During the dinner everything was going more or less casual, but I noticed that she was not really referring to me, making eye contact or any other kind of acknowledging interactions. I felt pretty much ignored by her the whole event, never to understand why.

This disturbed me very much, first because she is very dear to me, and second because I have recently been making an effort to consider her feelings and point of view whenever we are together.

I thought several things might be happening:

– I might be constantly doing something wrong or accidentally hurts her feelings not being aware of it.
– I might have had a bad interaction in the past with her that is still not completely resolved for her, though I can’t remember something in this way.
– She might just not like me for what I do and how I act, or feel that I don’t give her/other people space enough to be, as many times I may be too expressive/talky/something else.

All in all, I just don’t know what to do with this friendship. I have recently been tending to think that my sensitiveness and social skills are not that great in understanding how other people are feeling, so I am guessing I am just missing her point.

Are we still even friends? Am I being judged by her? Am I provoking this behaviour of her?

Any points of view on this matter are really valuable, thanks