I made a friend in fall and while I don’t want to jump to conclusions, I just wanted to be cautious or careful going in:
Recently he had a get together and on the day of it, he called me and asked if he could borrow my PS5 for the event and all. I said sure but I did find it kinda odd that he just asked for my PS5 but didn’t invite me at all for the event at all. I did ask if I could come later and he said sure, but still. And the event had others I knew as well
Earlier, he once asked me for 200 bucks and claimed he would pay me back and all but its still a huge thing to ask
Does this sound like taking advantage maybe?
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Possibly. If you were to communicate with him, start with the 200 dollars. Just start off by asking him when you’re getting it back. If he seems annoyed at the question, maybe just say a statement like “200 dollars was a lot for me to lend. In the future, if I can’t get the value of what I lent back in a sooner amount of time, I’m going to have to set more boundaries on what I let people borrow”
Also the PS5 thing seems childish. It could mean nothing depending on how close you are to this person compared to everyone else at the gathering, like if he was the one you were closest to. But borrowing the PS5 and the money altogether seems weird. If you feel like bringing both these things up, you can say something like you feel isolated, and ask him not to call in these favors for things you’re not involved in
It does if he asks you for money again before paying you for the 200.
Yes it does sound like he is manipulating you.
It is a red flag when you make an acquaintance and they start asking you for things and they don’t even invite you to do stuff with them. That, and $200? Really? At that point it seems like he has the idea in his head “this person says yes to everything so imma take these opportunities lol”
I recommend saying no to him and see how he reacts. If his reaction makes you feel negative, I’d drop him. If he seems to understand how you feel and empathizes, then keep him around, but still be wary. If he shows signs of improvement by not asking you for your things, thats a good sign. If he doesn’t improve, drop him.