On the one hand, I (28f) finally feel like im not hung up on an ex or a past relationship. I truly feel healed and ready for a new relationship, which is what im looking for.
On the other hand, I’m just so exhausted. Dating is so hard and while I do get a lot of matches, I just have a hard time taking it anywhere. I don’t feel motivated to go on dates anymore and I’m so used to being alone, living alone and being independent (emotionally too).
It does get lonely at times but those days are rare. For the most part, I’m happy by myself and I’m trying to pick up new and interesting things to do!
I also feel like my exhaustion with dating has translated into my sex life as well. I haven’t had sex in a while and my last short term partner is in town again. He’s indicated interest and has been flirtatious but I’m just not interested in sex with him as well. God I could use some but, I’m just not mentally motivated.
Is this normal? Anyone else on this boat?
Tl;dr: I finally feel ready for a relationship which I logically know I’m looking for but dating has exhausted me mentally. This has translated into my sex life as well. Is this normal?
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I’m in the exact same boat (I turn 30 in July). I downloaded 2 dating apps in April but I’m already over it. I miss companionship but I’m just burnt out.
The toughest thing about dating seemingly, is the mental toll it can take on a person. I say this as someone who has never really been in a “serious” relationship.