I (27 M) met this girl working on a food truck 3 years ago and we started flirting. We were going to date 2 years ago but COVID happened. I hit her back up a few months ago and she said come over then flaked when I asked for her address. She said she had a lot going on and was moving places. I saw her kiss a guy on Snapchat story so I removed her on everything and put it behind me. I messaged her again a few months later and we set a date up. We went bowling a couple weeks later. A week after, we watched a movie at her place and cuddled/had sex. We stayed up all night and I had to leave at around 5 am because her 3 year old daughter was waking up. She said ” you know how to eat pussy” at one point, and when I left she hugged/kissed me on the way out.
The whole time leading up we texted. Oftentimes she would take a while to respond (24+ hours), but she’d move the conversation forward when she did. I chalked it up to her having a toddler and two jobs. Since our movie night, she’s been taking a while to respond to texts still, but it somehow feels less enthusiastic to me. She did respond fairly enthusiastically when I texted her something sexual, and we set up a hiking date for the 13th which she’s taking work off for, but I’m worried that it’s her being sweet and playing along bc she doesn’t want to ghost me. Should I just chalk this up to me being more anxious and insecure after getting intimate? It had been quite a while for me, and I’m discovering that I do still like her quite a lot. I could tell she liked me a ton a couple years ago, and I hope she still does. What should I think about how things are going? How should I proceed? Oh, and how do I add her on Snapchat again without making it awkward? 😂
tl;Dr: dating a girl, got intimate. She’s always texted slowly, but it feels less enthusiastic now. We did set up a third date.
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She would not be setting up a date like that if she was playing along.
She has a kid and 2 jobs, her time is sliced allot. She probably is not able to respond or when able to an inappropriate time so she waits till the next time she can.
Consider this, when talking to she ask her when she has free time to chat/talk and consider any time in between bonus time.
Remember that her kid is her first priority and keeping a roof over their head.
If things progress also consider spending time while she is doing the things she needs to do. I had a date at a grocery store because that was the only time she had, I met her there, we both shopped, in drover her home (did not go in because she had to deal with other things) kissed her and went on my day. She thanked me later in a very fun way.
Edit: autocorrect errors