I matched with a girl on Hinge who I thought was super out of my league in terms of looks, and I tried to keep the conversation up but it just didn’t happen. One of her prompts said “are you a cat person because” and had a picture of her and her cat. So this is how our conversation went:
Me: I can be a cat person as long as they’re cuddly and not scratchy 😂
Her: He’s super soft, I promise
Me: Oh thank goodness! You’re definitely cute, so – respectfully – are you cuddly too?
Her: I am 🤣
Me: Awesome 😄 very glad to hear that haha. What are you into besides cats and cuddles? Also is your frog tattoo a reference to anything? I’m very interested lol
Her: It’s not, his name is pistol Pete and I just decided I wanted him one day
Me: Oh that’s rad lol. What do you like to do for fun?
Her: I like to garden.
I decided to end it there, but I don’t know how to interpret this. It happens with many women I match with and it doesn’t make sense; if they’re not interested or just want an ego boost, why reply? Can anyone offer some advice?
Edit: I’m 24M, she was 20 I think
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I’m confused. It seems like she was the last to respond, but you decided not to reply. Do you believe she’s uninterested because she didn’t ask about your hobbies?
well what you’re doing wrong is asking random questions that don’t serve any purpose, and that’ll get you ghosted eventually. my advice:
1. don’t ask questions that aren’t leading to an actual date idea. with the info you’ve gotten, what fun date are you going to propose? taking her to a botanical garden? you can do better.
2. don’t say things that aren’t giving her easy openings to ask about you, or building up her curiosity. she named her tattoo pistol Pete, there’s a bunch of things you can talk about there (e.g. you can mention you also have a nickname, or make a joke about you, her, and Pete robbing banks, or some tattoo you have, etc) instead you just moved on so its like you’re not even listening to her.
3. overall, understand what are funny / interesting things you want to talk about, and drive towards getting those across, with every person. if you have a chance to divert on some interesting stuff, do that, but come with a plan and assume they’re going to bring nothing and you have to carry the convo.