My best friend and I used to talk everyday, and schedules hang out. Tho we haven’t seen each other for a year now because he was very busy with law school and the bar exam. Which I completely understand.
But two months ago, he already finished school and the exam. But I think something has changed. I think he seems so distant and cold to me.
I always initiate the contact. But it would take him days, or sometimes weeks to reply. And his answers are mostly very short, doesn’t show interests.
I tried to ask him how he is. But no answer.
I also tried to ask him whenever he is free for a catch up, as I miss him and would be best to have someone talk about what’s going with everything recently. But also no answer. While I’m seeing his online posts hanging out with his other friends.
I know that people have other friends. I know that they don’t have the obligation to say yes and be with you all the time. But it hurts me. And makes me feel like I’m not even important to people that I love and care about.
I don’t want to take this personally but Am I being too sensitive on this?? How do you suggest to handle it? Should I just stop trying and walk away on this friendship?
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This is a little bit hard to explain but the way you really know what’s missing is when you stay in silence, get busy, or simply stop initiating contact. Dissappear in a sense.
After awhile you begin to understand what is missing, and your friend hopefully also register that something (or someone) is missing out of his life, maybe you used to do certain important fun things together? Maybe not so fun and toxic, i don’t know you. Anyways, that’s going to be the catalyst of your friendship or its death. Doesn’t have to be death literally, you could just remain in contact, perhaps you meant to reunite later.