For those who don’t know what a surrogacy pregnancy is, it would be entirely your and your partners child with the womb being created by your eggs and your partners sperm, however the pregnancy would be carried by another woman through artificial insemination.

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  1. No. If money was no object, I would look into adoption. While I have nothing against those who di use surrogacy, there are so many children who need wonderful and loving homes that are already here.

  2. Heck yes! I’ll save my body thanks very much!

    Edit to say:

    1. Said woman is getting paid to carry the kid

    2. You don’t know me! Maybe I don’t want to “stay hot” maybe I have a disability that makes pregnancy harder on my body

  4. Yes because being pregnant and giving birth sounds like it sucks.

    I also would love to adopt but it’s a bit expensive and requires a lot of appointments that mean id have to take a lot of time off work.

    I get why they do it, but man does it make it difficult to get the process started.

  5. No. I don’t ever want kids, but if I did and if I had all the money we would need, I would adopt. The foster care system is horrible and there are so many kids already that don’t have families. I would adopt and give them a safe, comfortable environment.

  6. No, with 1 exception to the rule. The only person I would let take that role would be my sister, when its someone you hire who is doing it not for familial love, there’s some concerns about ethics and class that put me off for it.

  7. No. First because it’s illegal where I live, and second because pregnancy is an important part of the motherhood experience for me personally. If I cannot get pregnant, I will choose to adopt instead.

  8. I’d never do that because the whole concept of surrogacy pregnancy is weird to me. It’s not just a job where you work for 8 hours and go home… the surrogate gives 9 whole months of her life to growing a kid that isn’t hers. Her diet, her every move is relevant to the kid’s “parents”, her whole life basically belongs to them for this time. I’d never want to be on either side of this.

  9. Sure, depending on the terms of the surrogacy situation. I realize some people are uncomfortable with paid surrogacy arrangements. I don’t see an issue with it if compensation and prenatal care are covered and all parties are consenting.

  10. No, I have a moral objection to surrogacy. It often exploits vulnerable populations and I don’t think women’s bodies should be for rent/sale.

    Having children isn’t a human right, and it’s not worth exploiting others because you want to be a parent but ONLY if it has your own dna.

  11. Honestly no. I would personally find surrogacy uncomfortable because of the idea of renting somebody’s womb. And then for them to just hand the baby over to me as if they didn’t just give birth is just a bit too strange for me.

  12. Hopefully not. Aside from the ethical point, I’m not comfortable with the image of taking a baby away from the woman who birthed them.

  15. No. Firstly I’m not happy with the ethics of the situation.
    Secondly I actually quite enjoyed being pregnant and giving birth, it wasn’t difficult for me. I would feel like I was missing out.

  16. No.

    I’m vehemently childfree but if for whatever reason I somehow desired a child and money was no object I would adopt a child from the country I live in.

    I think surrogacy is such a bizarre concept from a human rights standpoint. It very explicitly exploits vulnerable young women. I don’t believe it is right to be able to buy access and control to others bodies. It is extremely unethical in my opinion.

    As someone else mentioned having a child is not a human right. If you desire to be a parent there is truly no need for you to share DNA with it. There are many other ways to procure a child. There are countless children all over the world who are desperately in need of a loving home.

    It’s actually crazy to me that people think it’s completely fine to use some poor woman as a living breathing human incubator, who they control as though she’s a SMART thermostat for the duration of the 9months, and then she has to go through the entire birthing process and give you the child(ren) she carried as long as you pay her.

    In my opinion there is no excuse or justification in why you would exploit a women’s body for the sake of having a bio child.

  17. No, I’m concerned with the ethics of it. I would do foster care to a group of siblings. And if they don’t end up being reunited with their bio family, I would adopt.

  18. Nah. I don’t think we should be making more babies in this world and I don’t give a fuck about all that “biologically mine” bullshit. I’d sooner adopt.

  19. Nope. If money wasn’t a problem, I would go to a good pricate clinic to get embryos matured and implanted. I have PCOS so my body isn’t handling that part too well by itself..

  20. After being pregnant and having a child twice, oh hell yes. Some women enjoy pregnancy, some women don’t mind it, and others absolutely hate it. I am 0 for 2 on giving birth without almost dying, in 2 completely different ways.

    If someone was willing to be a gestational carrier and I was able to pay them a life changing amount of money for this, that is a win all around.

    I rent my body to my employer 40 hours a week for barely enough to get by. In terms of exploitation, adequately compensated gestational carriers seems pretty minimal. However, that also assumes that there’s infrastructure, laws, resources, and other protections available for both parties, which isn’t currently the case where I am.

  22. No. I don’t want children, but if I did and money was no object, I’d adopt. I’m not comfortable with the ethics surrounding surrogacy.

  23. Adoption. I have both a bio and a child adopted from foster care.
    Other poster have pointed out that surrogacy often exploits underprivileged women but also there are on average over 100k adoptable kids in the US right now who need parents.

    Adoption from foster care in the USA isn’t that expensive contrary to popular belief. It can cost as much or less than as having a baby. It isn’t prohibitivly expensive until you involve outside agencies. If you only want a baby you can get put on a waiting list so that you only get exactly what you want. They literally have a checkoff sheet prospective parents fill out.

    Severeal years ago my partner and I went to an Adoption intro put on by a local Catholic Agency. They told us that you could only adopt a baby though an agency and not directly through the state/county and it would cost $$$$$$. Fast forward a few months through a crazy turn of events we had become foster parents. I spoke with several people at our county and they were like “yeah you can adopt a baby through us and it would be way cheaper”.The Catholic charity lied to us and all the other folks at that intro. Adoption agencies are about making money. I saw the numbers, the Catholic chairty had added on average over 15k+ to what the county charged. We found out that most of the agencies and charities in our area were lying to prospective adoptive parents and telling them they had to go through a private agency.

    Adoption agencies are about making money.
    Everybody has a hand in the pot. If you are interested in adopting contact you local county Child Welfare agency and speak the folks in foster and adoption licenseing directly and cut out the middle men who are all trying to make money.

    I worked directly with the county on Adoption and through an agency. All the agency did was muddy the waters and add to the list bureaucrats who slowed things down.

  24. No. I would get multiple women to help me pre and postpartum. Sleep deprivation is the worst I hear, so I’d pay to decrease that.

  25. I’d opt for adoptions instead.

    Side note: Honestly, I’m not a big fan of the thought of people adopting only when it their last choice.
    (No hate to anyone at all. But as someone who was adopted, this thought never left my mind really. I hope we are also chosen first and considered first.)

  27. I wouldn’t. Firstly because I’m child free and secondly because of ethical reasons.

    If there was ever a 0.001% chance I change my mind and decided I want a kid and money wasn’t an issue, I would definitely adopt instead of getting pregnant or paying someone to carry it for me. Passing on my genes is not a thing for me.

  29. I actually tried to convince my ex to go this route when we were together due to my medical history making it near impossible for me to carry full term.

    As long as all the contracts are done well and you utilize a professional service (they vet surrogates and provide them ongoing therapy to ensure they do not suffer mental health issues after birth) I think it’s a wonderful service for people who cannot conceive on their own. The only issue I have is the crazy cost involved – which if you had the money like above wouldn’t be an issue.

  30. No, surrogacy is unethical and I cannot abide by something so dehumanizing. IF a few people want to do it as a personal favor to their loved ones then it’s their business but the issues that come with selling women to wealthier families as broodmares is disgusting and not something we need to propagate. Having a child is NOT a right it’s a privilege and it’s unfortunate that it’s not in the cards for some couples but adoption is a much more ethical option (and let’s be real, people who’re only interested in being parents to their own biological children aren’t the people who should be having kids anyways)

  31. I cant have kids of my own but I know I can love any kid so I would just adopt. Surrogacy feels like buying a baby, what if something goes wrong with either the mom or the baby? I will feel guilty.

  32. I wouldn’t want my baby to be a sale or a product I paid for also having my dna in my baby wouldn’t matter to me I would just love having a child, so I would much prefer to adopt in that situation. And if money is no object I’d help young mothers instead of spending it on myself and my family. Plus I just can’t see myself asking the mother to give up her child and leave after… i wouldn’t be able to ignore that she just gave up a human life she helped create for me and my person.. that would be too sad for me and I’d have to invite her to stay and then I’d be living with a stranger and I wouldn’t be able to go bathroom in my underwear therefore it’s not worth it.

  33. No. I’m talking from a place of privilege because I already know my body can carry a healthy baby to term. But even when we were 1 year TTC with no luck surrogacy was never a possibility to me. If I couldn’t experience bonding with my babies in utero myself, I wouldn’t pay someone else to do what I desperately wanted… That makes no sense to me. Not to mention the uncomfortable ethical problems that everyone else had mentioned.

  34. No. Ild rather adopt if im unable to carry a child.

    If im just unwilling to put my body through pregnant, why would i pay some other woman to do what im unwilling to do myself?

    Either way, ild adopt. I want to adopt anyways if i can

  35. No, I find surrogacy deeply immoral and exploitative. Women’s bodies shouldn’t be for rent.

  36. No. I hate the idea of being pregnant and giving birth, but I think it’s wrong to make someone else go through that when they don’t even get to keep the baby.

    If money was no object, I’d hire multiple people to help me with looking after my pregnancy and newborn (doulas, nannies etc) rather than surrogacy

  37. No. IMO it’s a variation on human trafficking. It uses and commodifies women’s bodies. There are plenty of children who need homes waiting to be adopted.

  38. I think it would depend on the surrogate herself, for me.

    I have disabilities that would probably make me bedridden for the duration of the pregnancy should I carry my own child. I would rather adopt.

    In high school, I had a friend whose mother was a surrogate. She had two children of her own, and was still healthy enough to carry children, so wanted to be able to help gay male couples in the area have biological children. Surrogacy *can* be ethical, but is not always. Be thorough with your research!

  39. Absolutely not. I don’t believe women should be used or rented out even though they “consent”. It often takes advantage of disadvantaged populations. It is kind of handmaids tale and I believe is a slippery slope. Children are not and should not be something you can order or buy. They aren’t a right everyone is entitled to and I don’t believe we should “mess” with nature. I oppose IVF too. Adoption is sometimes the best option, but I do believe parents should be kept with their children if possible as the best case scenario although sometimes it’s not for the best.

  40. I would not. It is not ethical. Women are suffering and being used in the surrogate industry.

  41. No. I don’t think surrogacy is an ethical practice. Aside from the issues of renting another human’s body for personal gain, often a poor person, a newborn baby should not be separated from its mother unless the baby is in danger. Genetics aside, the baby only understands the woman who gave birth to it as it’s mother.

  42. I would feel weird about essentially “renting” another woman’s body for 9 months. I don’t think there’s any amount of money that could justify enticing another woman to carry my child for financial gain.

  43. Yes. My own pregnancies were high risk and problematic. I’d love another child and would definitely consider surrogacy.

  44. Absolutely not that’s explotation of poor woman, utterly selfish and disgusting.

  45. Personally no because ethically I think the surrogacy system that currently exists in the United States is suspect. When I was really poor and struggling massively I strongly considered doing surrogacy myself because of the high amount of money $$$ it pays. This was a few years ago. I was looking up just regular jobs to apply to, and found a bunch of surrogacy listings which was really odd, but I looked into it. They were like any other job application, each listing first thing you read is how much it will pay you and how quickly, which I think probably hooks in vulnerable people imo, because I wouldn’t have considered it at all if not for the high pay $$$. Also because I’m a very emotional person and no way I would have NOT gotten attached to the baby while growing it inside me, I would definitely be heartbroken giving the baby away after knowing and growing him inside of my body for 9 months, but I REALLY needed money at the time and that was the only reason I considered it. I can’t imagine putting another person in that situation. Anyway, I didn’t end up qualifying because I hadn’t given birth before and you have to have given birth at least once so the surrogacy company that you’re applying to knows you’re capable of a healthy delivery (which makes) but it was probably a good thing I was denied since I was not doing it for the right reasons.

  46. I want an artificial womb. From conception to birth. I would totally volunteer for that research. I don’t really want a surrogate carrying my child, but pregnancy and birth seem awful. Give me like a plastic incubator with my baby growing in it.

  47. No. I consider it human trafficking. Here in Europe (the rich part), people order babies from special clinics in poor Eastern European countries. The women carrying the babies are often so poor and desperate they have to do this to feed their own kids. They are bound by strict contracts and pretty much enslaved during the pregnancy because there are so many things they’re not allowed to do (like have an abortion even if her health is endangered, exercise, have sex, eat what she wants etc). In theory, it would have been nice not having to carry the kids I want, but I could never do that to another person. Plus, it’s illegal.

  48. I’m going to go across the grain here.

    I never want kids but in this hypothetical situation, yes I would consider surrogacy.
    I don’t know not one woman who’s not had some negative health/body consequences from pregnancy. My mom had her last child 30+ years ago and still can’t hold her bladder for long. If I could shield myself from pregnancy than I would.

    I wholeheartedly support women having complete bodily anatomy. And if a woman was willing to subject her body to pregnancy for pay then I don’t see a problem with that.

  49. I had a baby through surrogacy, though our situation was rather different.

    Where I live, commercial surrogacy is not allowed, and there has to be medical reasons to do it. We were assessed by an entire team and then by the ethics committee of the hospital.
    Because we tried everything, and because a very good friend offered, we were able to have our daughter. We used my husbands sperm and a donated egg because mine weren’t an option.
    My friend had all expenses paid, but nothing more.

    It’s been an amazing journey for all of us, and I’m incredibly grateful to my friend everyday.

    After all this, I still don’t think commercial surrrogacy is an ethical option. It’s exploitative in my opinion, and can force poor women into something that’s incredibly fraught with emotion, while also being completely unpredictable and potentially debilitating or even lethal. I struggled a lot with whether to accept this from my friend, who loved us and had four easy pregnancies before, plus a total medical checkup beforehand. If women are in financial need, would this process be as rigorous? Is there mental health care afterwards? Etc.

    (For the classic ‘but why didn’t you adopt’: we are on the waitlist since 2016 and are now at number 260-ish. There’s a very strict policy where I live for which children are considered adoptable, with preference given to foster care, resulting in only 20something placements a year. So not an easy option. )

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