I realize most women cannot cum from penetration alone, but for those who can…has it always been that way or how did you figure out that it was possible? What made it click?

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  1. I have found slow, shallow thrusts. Girth helps. So does sex while using a plug.

    It’s still not consistent but also not something I make a lot of effort to do.

  2. Not it wasn’t always possible. It happened after probably 2/3 months of sex with a long term partner.

    Penetrative sex felt good but not amazing. Then I touched my clit during penetration and I had the most mind blowing orgasm I’d ever felt (at that time) and after there was white liquid on the condom which turned out to be the female equivalent of ejaculation. For a few times after, I tried this again and it always worked.

    Now, I don’t have to stimulate my clit during sex and can have multiple orgasms, some lasting 30 seconds or overlapping orgasms. It’s truly the most mind blowing feeling but can be very exhausting.

  3. Always, but I learned how to cum by myself prior to having partnered sex. Knowing how to stimulate my g-spot and clit and understand my pathways to arousal/orgasm helped a lot.

  4. It took learning, and a man that asks/listens to what you want him to do instead of thinking he will “give you” orgasm ignorantly (which is honestly hard to find and it takes time to get them to hear you).

  5. First time I ever came with penetration alone was when my now husband were FWB.
    Previously never happened with anyone. It happens pretty regularly for me during doggy style now.

  6. I asked my wife and she says “It first happened about 17-18 and the trigger was just good sex.”

    After further probing she says there literally was no trigger at all for her that she noticed. She doesn’t even remember exactly when it first happened.

  7. I’m not a woman I confess, but it’s the position that works best for you. My wife personally will more likely orgasm from penetration in doggie style, for her that’s when I hit all the right buttons. She’ll dictate to me the rhythm speed and harder or softer.

  8. I was 30, and, I was having sex with a woman who was using a strap-on on me. I was enjoying it, then all of a sudden felt some slight twitches in my pelvic floor. Thought “that’s weird”. Then the next time it happened again. Then again…. eventually turning into a full orgasm.

    Before that relationship, penetration did absolutely nothing for me and I often thought I’d rather read a book because of how boring it was.

    My advice for anyone wanting to experience this is to not try. I assumed for years it would never happen for me and I never tried to make it happen. Then one day it did. In my opinion, orgasms are not something you do, more like something that happens to you.

  9. It was always that way for me; the last couple of partners i’ve had have been ummm.. not great though, so it didn’t happen at all with them.

    I actually kind of assumed that it was normal tbh – i thought it was the same way for every woman. I had no idea that a lot of women can’t orgasm from penetration.

  10. My husband now gave me my first leg shaking one, at 29but the man before him gave me my first. At 25 years old. I spent the rest of the years between them chasing it. Now it’s pretty much the only way I cum. The night I squirted all over him, the bed, the walls? I got out of my own head, and was just focused on the absolute pleasure I was feeling. That’s really what nailed the I cum better from PIV, with some clit and rough nipple play

  11. Only in lotus position. Maybe I can be close in missionary but rarely and never fully orgasm. In lotus i cum more but not always just a few times

  12. It was interesting, I had been sexually active for ten years, and had been very satisfied in all my sexual relationships with clitoral orgasms. I just figured I was one of the majority of women who wasn’t wired for the vaginal, penetration-only orgasm, and wasn’t fussed about it. Then one day, it just spontaneously happened and shocked the hell out of my long-term partner and I! Very exciting, we were so pleased. It’s still kind of rare, but it’s a fun prize to try and shoot for, happens every once in a while when the stars align just right.

    I’d say the “trigger” was probably that we were feeling very strongly emotionally connected at the time. We had just kind of taken a step to a deeper relationship, become closer and just felt very very in love and excited to be together in that moment, and my body responded. In the years since, it seems to be more likely if I’m ovulating, we’re both in good emotional states, and I couldn’t guess what else, it seems to just be luck beyond that. But it’s very mental, for me.

  13. The position and the angle is usually key for me! Everyone is different. I orgasm best when riding. Missionary or Doggy is very iffy and takes using a vibrator on my clit normally. I can orgasm those ways too without a vibrator, but only if my partner is very handsy and vocal.

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