Was It Wrong To Refuse To Speak To My Friend

There were no boundaries. “Murry”(F/23) made fun of me(F/22) a lot- called me dense, said my writing was shit, etc. I brought it up & she said, “that was long ago.” It wasn’t. “You’re one of the smartest people I know.” She also body shamed me a lot- acne, nipples too big, etc.

The main issues were hang outs. In the past, I was late a lot/canceled due to poor time management. My irresponsibility messed up our plans sometimes. I was wrong. However, the 1st time I canceled, she called my mom a, “lazy bitch,” b/c she was mad I had to do chores instead of being w/ her. She was young, so it’s fine. But that pattern of getting mad @ me/my loved ones for canceling even if it wasn’t my fault continued into adulthood. It scared me to hang out, & it hurt b/c she overlooked the many times I was there to focus on when I couldn’t make it.

Boundaries grew worse when I started dating. I wanted her to meet my GF, “Heather”(F/21). We only hung out 3 times. She told Heather behind my back that we needed alone time. She also showed me Doll Face, “just in case.” Doll Face is about a girl crawling back to the friends she ghosted after a breakup. I was confused why she’d show that when Heather barely hung out w/ us & when I never ghosted her. I also hated when she got touchy (tried to lick my face, etc.). She could tell I didn’t like it & seemed sad. It made me not want to be friends b/c it felt like she didn’t respect my relationship.

Boundaries grew WORSE when I started working. I invited Murry to a short film I was making. She didn’t know it was a film set & thought we’d be alone. (I should have communicated better). When she saw we weren’t alone, she yelled to everyone that I was unreliable. Also, while everyone complimented my work, she said it was only good b/c she called my writing shit.

She came to my 2nd job unannounced. I was supposed to get piercing stuff I left @ her house. I didn’t feel good that morning/had to work. I didn’t want her mad, so I stupidly lied & said I went to work early. When I went to work, my coworker asked why she was there. Murry drove 30 minutes to my job to bring my stuff. When she saw I wasn’t there, she cried & called me a liar. My coworker thought she was my “crazy girlfriend.” Murry lied & said my coworker was lying. She then tried to guilt trip me by saying, “I drove 30 minutes for you,” when I never asked for that.

She said she wanted time to heal. I agreed. Since the incident, we only hung out once w/ another friend. While hanging out, I noticed she had an attitude w/ me. I realized I should have ended things earlier. I didn’t want to talk b/c we’ve talked before & nothing changed. I left our group chat & unfriended her on everything. I briefly told my other friend why I left so she knew me leaving wasn’t her fault. Murry found out through our other friend & blocked me.

I’m SO HAPPY it’s over, but I did want to know if it was wrong for me to end things that way.