me and my boyfriend have both been together for a long time, we are strictly monogamous and always have been. he is transgender and is very insecure about his body so we never really got that far sexually despite being together for so long but my boyfriend is extremely attractive and has quite a bit of a following on social media.
because hes really attractive and has a large following, he usually gets a lot of dms from people complimenting him or flirting with him. he’s mentioned to me before that he will feed into other peoples flirting (before we dated) because he liked the sexual attention he got for it even if he didnt get any sexual gratification out of it and fed into it just to be called pretty and so on.
this made me pretty upset because he was really open with being sexual and flirty with other people online but he never does anything with me. he still gets dms flirting with him frequently and today he got one and he blocked them but it just threw me over the edge because I feel like even though he pretends like he hates it i know he said he loves the validation and it makes me feel a little like hes cheating on me because he’s getting sexual validation from other people.
I keep asking him to turn off his comments or to close dms because he keeps complaining about how people wont stop messaging him saying sexual things and its making me feel insecure because I know hes mentioned before that he gets validation from it and i feel a little betrayed.
what should i do?? would this classify as him being disloyal??
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I have a supermodel girlfriend, everywhere she goes people will stare and flirt. It means she’s pretty and very attractive. Instead of getting angry or frustrated with her and others, I’m proud and felt really lucky that we’re together.
Always assume positive intention, you will lead a happier life.