I’m a SAHM, I don’t have a job because my children are little and my husband is the provider. I feel like every where we go people want a tip for just doing their job.
An example is I ordered through the drive thru and a young man took my order, I came back 20 minutes later & a girl answers the window and asked for my card. After she puts it in she says would you like to leave a 15 percent tip? I told her yes, but later I thought why, what for, who got the tip at the end? I also hate to donate to charity, because I feel like they constantly get raises and don’t give all the proceeds to the actual cause. What is your take on it all?
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What was the drive thru you went too? I dont know one drive thru that makes you tip for their service. That’s only at restaurants..
You may not realize.. being blessed enough to not be in the workforce and a husband who makes enough to support the family……
Times are hard and pay is low.
Its weird they asked in a drive through… but people need money.
Tips are expected for good service. Thats them doing their job. Your job is tip people who do good jobs.
Most families, both parents have to work. Some the kids even need jobs before they finish school.
If you dont like charities.. go give money to people directly… but you dont like tips, so it seems its just that you take issue parting with money.
This is, in my experience, a mostly American thing. I do not like tipping. It annoys me to no end when I am stuck here for work. In Greece we may occasionally let a server keep change or leave a tip for very exceptional service…but it’s not something you have to do like here in America. I think it is because of the way American restaurants pay their staff.
I agree. Tip shaming is out of control. Took my daughter to Jamba Juice recently. Everyone who tips gets a “tip tip” chant.
So if you pay and there’s no chant, everyone knows you didn’t tip. Screw these places and the ones that flip the ipad on you and tell you to answer two questions.
And yes, if I can afford an $8 smoothie I can afford to tip, but I just don’t like getting bullied into it.
I’m guessing you live in America, and it’s mostly the problem of the entire system, the employers get away with paying them way too little so they basically NEED those tips.
Tipping in Europe is basically unheard of, unless it was a really excellent service, not just without any problems, but to where you can say “wow that was really good service”. Personally I don’t think I’ve withnessed anybody giving a tip.
On the charity thing: yeah, you gotta look out for them, but as far as I know, if their site says all the proceeds go directly into the cause I don’t think they’re even allowed to make any profits, that said, people do things that aren’t allowed all the time. In general only donate to charities that you truly believe in and/or trust
In America only because they aren’t paid good enough , Here some workers won’t accept any tip because they are good paid anyway but if the service is exceptional they deserve a tip of course
Apparently, tipping in Japan is considered rude, or insulting, depending on the service in question.
The social skill to learn here, would be to just say “No”.
Nobody can force you to leave a tip. It’s okay to refuse. Nobody will retaliate against you, or spit in your food, or shame you on social media.
The whole tipping thing in America is nuts. It was always going to be used as a reason to pay them less for a start.
Then you get into the situation you found yourself in. Tipping is basically a public way of saying ‘I’ve got money to throw away’.
I’d rather see a particular hard worker in the place and then give them a tip direct to them and not for the manager to take half.
Things are getting tighter and tighter for you guys.
I’m already ahead of the curve and live in a tent surrounded by nature. I’m not pretending to be in this race anymore. It’s depressing. I’m happier being alone in a bush than in a house with 6strangers,all fucking and leaving pubes everywhere.
I’m happier now.
I don’t mind tipping at all but I wouldn’t do it at a drive through, that seems excessive to me.
Then don’t go out? It’s that simple? Don’t fuck and have kids if you’re gonna complain about it? Get a job then? Lmfao. I literally do not care.
You’re not the only one. Tips have gotten out of control. It used to be you just tip if you dine in and are being waited on but it’s gotten insane. I understand tipping someone making 2.13 an hour but someone making full minimum wage to do the bare minimum? All these places paying full wages have made it difficult not to tip too! When i go to subway they dont even offer a 0% tip option, you have to go out of your way to say ‘no, im not tipping’. It’s horrendous the amount of tip shaming that’s going on, especially with fast food where most of the process is automated and quick. They make over $13 an hour and still wanna shame you into tipping them, it’s stupid.
I think the general social rule is you tip when you’re being waited on by a specific person. So if you’re at a restaurant, its the person who takes your order and brings food to your table, or if you’re sitting at a bar, the bartender who makes the drink for you. But any other walk-up counter or drive-through, I don’t think tipping is expected or necessary, unless the person specifically gives you good service.
Im with you! Seems like every business throws up tip options now. I try to always tip generously for dine in as long as the service wasn’t awful. But it seems kinda nuts to me that im expected to tip for things like a quick coffee order, or pickup order for lunch. Just don’t like that the price isn’t really the price anywhere anymore. I still give in most of the time and tip anyway especially if it’s a family run/small business. Half the time im wondering if these tips are even distributed among the workers or just pocketed by the owners as additional revenue.
I’ve never worked in the food service industry, I get that many times these are the only reasonable options for work for so many people. The whole model of employers being able to get away paying below minimum wage and relying on the generosity of patrons to makeup the difference seems so ridiculous to me. Curious for those working in that industry, do you like the structure the way it is or would you prefer a more stable fixed wage?
Tipping is a way of obligating poor people to support other poor people.
You don’t have a job, and yet you’re going to a drive through? Yeah you’d better save that tip for something you actually need 🙄
For dine in in the us it would be very rude to not tip. For takeout you don’t have to tip but it’s appreciated. I work as a server if someone doesn’t tip for takeout it’s fine if they do I think it’s nice of them. If someone didn’t tip for dine in I’d judge them though. I’ve never heard of tipping for a drive thru. Never experienced that being a thing I can’t imagine it’s common.
Nigga then don’t, you have all rights to refuse.
I thought the convention was to pay servers? I never tip cashiers, only servers or barbers or food delivery guy/girl. And I tip 10-15% always, regardless of quality of service.
But I do agree tipping should be removed, and the employees should be given a standard salary like a normal human.
I hate tipping so much, the culture needs to change. People need to charge what they want to be paid and workers need to be paid fairly.
The worst is tipping for people who do just exactly what you paid for. Like going to a drive through, I paid for the food and received it, there was no extra service. But if I’m at a restaurant I’m paying for the food and the person who is waiting on the table offers set up, clean up, and recommendations. I think that is okay to tip. But I’m not going to tip a mechanic for fixing my car, that’s his whole job and the only reason I’m there. Or a hair stylist, I paid you for the hair cut there was no additional service (assuming they didn’t wash my hair or blow dry, even then those should be separate charges.)
I truly hate tipping.
Canada sucks for this too because everyone makes at least minimum wage but the tipping mentality of the US permeates here anyways.
If you disapprove of tips, contact your politicians and demand legislation that requires all people to be paid a living wage!
Tipping only exists because somehow American companies think it’s okay to pay their employees less than the minimum wage. If we had a better system that didn’t revolve around keeping poor people poor, then we wouldn’t have to tip.
Then pay people a living wage so they don’t need to survive on tips 🙃
In US I tip bartenders, coffee baristas, waiters if eating at restaurants. I noticed fast food workers in drive thrus asking for tips a couple years back. Typically I won’t tip them unless Im in the mood to do so. The service isn’t any better and they make an hourly wage.
If Im in a country where the person is living on tips, then always be as generous as I can.
It’s getting out of hand. I saw a post with rule of not to tip if you pay upfront. Like when I order food to go, I will no longer tip. And don’t feel bad about it.
When I was a teen and didn’t know any better, I was a waitress and was told by my boss it was impolite to expect tips. I learned this lesson and believe in it.
Bosses need to do this instead of promoting employees to ask for tips. The bosses that don’t manage and pay their employees well should be ashamed.
If I go out, I tip. Smaller tips for smaller things, but a tip regardless.
I don’t know how many positions that person is covering or what they’re doing behind the scenes for me.
If I have to make myself feel better about it I’ll call it a “needless purchase” tax and call it a day.
After working a shit job and basically living off tips for a year even though I was making a “decent wage” it feels like a small thing
Looking how I do, people don’t usually expect a tip from me, so it’s a happy surprise for them and it makes my day better too.
Just my perspective, do you.
I agree. I feel the same way. I keep getting bombarded by these types of businesses and it’s always damned of you do and damned if you don’t. I don’t know what to do.
One thing I learned from a very smart professor was “Your vote is your dollar”. If you don’t like or don’t agree with something, don’t buy it. You actually doing business there perpetuates their way of doing business.
I think the best thing to do is ask the cashiers or whoever processing the transaction if they promote this way of doing business. If so, then don’t buy from there. I know it sounds like a hassle but you will feel way better this way.
I only tip delivery drivers and waiters of restaurants that I physically go into and sit down to eat. If I’m physically going to a store/place to pick up my food I’m not tipping. There isn’t a guarantee that my tip will go to the person preparing my drink/food when I pick it up. It probably goes to the person ringing me up and I personally don’t like that.
You’re just another american brainwashed by the fucking capitalist system. Congrats for rage against poor people making money only to survive and be very quiet about megacorps exploiting the working class…