What experiences do you have around slowly losing respect for 1 or 2 people in your social group

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1. Take a step back and reflect. I have found that as I lost friends because of their immaturity, that often their manner towards me and their responses to serious life events of mine were cringeworthy.

   As a solo person in life I am the stupid empathic idiot who can be the target for a “can you help me’ text

   But thats all there is no shared joys no loyalty no support

   I am not saying yours is the same but thats my experience. Xx

2. I had two friends that dated and the guy part of that equation started getting really toxic and strange. And I couldn’t see him the same after that. He wasn’t part of my main friend circle so I just didn’t hang out with him anymore if I could help it.

   Due to some past trauma there’s certain things that people do that I just shut down, like there’s no coming back from that. They are cut off from being close to me. It is such a strong childhood defense mechanism that it’s impossible to circumvent that.

3. It’s normal to outgrow friends or they outgrow you.