What would be your perception of someone who has self harm scars? Would you be uninterested in speaking with them? In case of dating, would it be a turn off?

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1. The cold truth? People are usually too self absorbed to really give a shit. It’s more about how you feel and what you give off.

   IMO, just own them. If someone asks, make a joke about them. Tell some wild ridiculous story that couldn’t possibly be true. Then when they’re done laughing, tell them the truth, and move on without dwelling on it. It should the message that it’s not a big deal and put anyone at ease around you if they weren’t already.

2. I have usually been straight forward and just say yeah I used to cut myself; if it’s like a younger kid asking, I’d say that I used to be reallly really sad.
   I have some scars, I don’t even see them.

   The other night I was visiting with my sister, and we were trying to high five eachother. And literally she missed the first two times because she was staring at my arms…

   I pointed it out to her like, and she knew she was caught, ha, she was like I’m so sorry I just couldn’t help it
   I wasn’t angry or upset with her either.

   Uhm I have a supervisor who had surgery on his arm before and he has a gash of a scar right down the middle of his forearm, when I first met him, I wondered if he had hurt himself before, but upon talking to him I came to find out it was due to surgery.
   I’ve had people ask if it’s from breaking my arm. Or if I got scratched by a cat.

   Maybe it’s just me, but I feel like some of the people I have everyday interactions with,are more gentle with me due to my scars.
   I don’t always like this.
   I guess I appreciate the concern, but I’m not always so delicate.

   I feel like half the people I know haven’t ever even noticed my scars. And I’m sorta animated while i talk, like I’ll gesture with my hands and stuff

   I have tattoos on my forearms but not covering any scars

   I have felt before (very few times) that I was being judged by someone or like they were giving me an attitude like I guess like being mean because they assume I had done any of it for attention, ya know?

   Idk.
   I hope maybe my lengthy comment helps you in some way. Take care 💕

   P.s. – I would be more interested. Because I’d want to know what happened and how they are now.

3. Alot of the girls on the… less conservative… subs have very visible scars.

   By this point it would probably be a Pavlov reaction.

4. This is my own personal opinion, but I myself wouldn’t date someone with self harm scars. Mental health sucks if it isn’t healthy, I get that. But no one ever tells you how exhausting it is to be the other person who is in the relationship. The constant worry of are they going to do something again, are they going to go further than this, this time round. I’ve done it before, never again.

   On the flip side I do have friends with mental health issues, but most of them are seeking professional help and advice.