Hello! I’ve posted on here once before about consent and I’m back again, for context when I was 15 years old I pressured my first girlfriend into sexual acts like grinding by badgering her into it. Ever since I’ve found out what I did was wrong I’ve had serious anxiety about pressuring girls into acts they’re uncomfortable with and generally try to be hypervigilant about consent.
Just yesterday I made my girlfriend (19F) feel like I kept reminding her that she was going to give me a handjob, and while I have been trying to be very very careful about avoiding that entire situation and by extension make her feel pressured or uncomfortable, I failed. I promised her it would never happen again and that if I ever made her feel that way again to just tell me because I never ever want to make anybody feel that way ever again.
This has been a really long and winding post asking everybody here if it’s natural to have to practice healthy consent and occasionally mess up, or if I am seriously unhealthy and dangerous to girls I am intimate with.