How do you deal with feeling as if you could be doing more with your life and feeling like crap knowing you’re not doing anything to fix that feeling?

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1. You might be lazy, and sometimes that’s okay at the right times or in the right situations. Are you burnt out and needing to recharge your batteries? In that example, laziness is okay.

   A lot of times, “laziness” really means “lack of passion.” Do you have something in your life that excites you? If not, that could be the thing that’s missing and causing your uneasy feelings.

   My biggest passion right now is community theater. It’s helped me feel alive again, after a few years of wondering what I wanted to do next.

2. I just decided to stop being a pussy

3. Make plans

4. Routine. Getting a new routine started is hard, but it’s easy to maintain.

5. Do more with your life

6. You have to make a choice! Every day! That choice needs to be that you’re going to do more and it might not be a whole lot day-to-day but over time it’ll add up.

   I’m crawling out of that hole myself. Not fully there yet but forcing myself to make new friends and do new things helped A LOT

7. If you genuinely want to start fixing it start with the bar minimum you can manage and go from there.

   1. Make your bed every day. (I know I know)

   2. Clean you room.

   3. So something physical every day.

   Each time you concur one task and it’s routine add the next.

   I know he’s controversial to some but Jordan Peterson has a book that’s literally designed to/ and has successful helped people overcome exactly what you just said. Might be worth a read.

8. Therapy. Medication.

9. You are not simply a person. You are the sum of the decisions you’ve made in your life(barring any extreme circumstances you were born into- I acknowledge that). If you want more, do more. If you are ok with where you are, enjoy it.

10. I don’t.

    Rules are

    1) If I can do something about it and I choose to then I feel good and build confidence (even if I fail, I learn)

    2) If I can do something about it and I choose not to then I have to suck it up because it’s on me to deal with, if I don’t then the only person to blame is me….which usually leads me to rule 1.

    3) If I can’t do something about it. Ignore it. No point on dwelling.

    4) Set goals, short, mid, and long term goals help give you something to strive toward while still allowing you to have wins (and encouragement) along the way. You’ll find that 9 times out of 10 things that you think are in rule 3 are actually in rule 1…you just havent figured it out yet.

    5) Discipline and routine. They’re entwined and when you learn both and pair with rule 4 the issue you described pretty much goes away. Doesn’t have to be crazy, just something simple like picking a time to wake up every morning and doing something useful for 15 minutes (read a book, mow the lawn, do a pushup, whatever). Then add to that routine as you master it (I suggest looking at it in two week cycles)

11. You have to get up and force yourself to do something until it becomes so routine that not doing it makes you feel strange.

12. Action. There is no other solution and nobody is going to solve the problem for you. Even worse, the longer you drag your feet the worse you make it on those who care for you the most. If you’re a man of good character, that alone should be unacceptable. So the ball is in your court. It’s not about how you feel, you might feel awful regardless. It’s about what you do.

13. I went to a recruiter and made the best, most awesome bad decision I ever made. It made me happier than I have ever been, sadder than I thought possible, more proud than I ever thought I could be, and more lost than I ever knew.

    It was glorious. I just wish I could do it again.