I’ve (35F) been dating my boyfriend (39M) for a year now.
Prior to me, he was in a relationship for about 3 years. They lived together and, in fact, she’s still his roommate for financial reasons. She has a boyfriend herself. And I’ve never met her.
But when I’m with my boyfriend, he gets calls/texts from her. One I saw when he opened it said “what are you doing tonight?”
I think he’s a good guy and he assures me there’s nothing going on. But it makes me question the situation. Sometimes, I feel like it’s a liability.
How do I know if they’ve really moved on? Of course, he says yes when I ask and that I’m the only one for him (yada, yada). But he also told me they broke up 2 years ago, but posts I see on Facebook appear as if they may have been involved up until we met a year ago.
It feels like a sticky situation, yes?
I believe, he needs to let go of this old relationship that went sour if he truly wants to move forward with me. It feels like a roadblock. It makes me feel like there’s someone else in the background.
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TL;DR; : Should I be worried about this situation?
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I’m a bit confused about the fact that you’re still worried about the kind of relationship they had after they broke up two years ago. Doesn’t he make you feel safe in the relationship? Or is it that you have never maintained a friendship with any ex?
Why did you get involved with this guy when you knew he was still living with his ex? Surely you must have been aware on some level that you wouldn’t be ok. Why do ppl clown themselves like this?
They’re roommates so it’s not unfathomable to think that roommates would hang out regardless of their relationship status
Also you are old enough to know that you can’t make anybody do anything and down talking another woman down that has done nothing to you is completely wrong
So grow up and either accept the fact that they live together or grow up and be single