apologies if this is too dating-related for this subreddit but i feel like i’m more asking for social cue reading and advice on how to handle coworker interactions rather than asking for dating advice.
girl i work with wants to get a drink with me (she suggested it). we get along well at work – i’m always happy to have a shift with her and the feeling appears to be reciprocated.
so as far as i know i’ll be getting a drink with her this weekend (vague plans so far). now this alone doesn’t necessarily mean anything right? or maybe it does i dunno. but a few other things have got me thinking she might be interested in me. for one, she’s a very touchy feely person – no issues touching people on the arm, back, hug etc – but last time i was working with her i hurt my hand doing something while she was standing next to me and she grabbed the hand to see if it was ok and held it for a liiitttle longer than necessary. then later on i’m leaning on a counter looking at something and she comes up to ask about it and stood so close that the whole side of my body was touching her.
and another thing – we at one point were chatting about exes and she mentioned that her previous partners have a theme body shape wise, which is basically just a description of me. this has come up once or twice more in different contexts. this one feels like a bit of a stretch but idk
im early 20s, have had one long term partner but otherwise only a handful of online dates that never went anywhere (sometimes my choice, sometimes theirs). i really got no idea what i’m doing and i’m a little worried that i’m reading too much into it because i think she’s cool and seems like a good friend so far but if she wants something more i’d be down for that too.
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From what you described it sounds like it’s a date. But since she’s a coworker and not a Tinder match, just play it cool and leave options open. Don’t go too heavy into one direction just try to be comfortable and make her comfortable and see where it goes.
You’ve practically described a scene from a romantic comedy! (the hand thing)
I think it sounds like she has some interest, and the outing will probably reveal how much. So if you’re open to that, all is well! But don’t make any assumptions, be friendly, and if you’re inclined to pursue it touch her in a friendly (not suggestive way) and see if she’s cool with that. If she doesn’t react negatively to that carry on and have fun!
Go easy and drink slowly.
It could honestly be anything. Just go for the drink with no expectations of what it is and see where it goes.