Not sure if this belongs here because it’s not directly related to sex, but I consider making out the lowest level of sexual acts so here we go:
I’ve (22m) been officially with my girlfriend (23f) for a couple months now and we’ve only made out once. This is actually my first relationship ever (she knows that btw) so everything is very new and scary and awkward for me. So much so that I literally can’t remember how we started making out, like there’s a gap in my memory from a few minutes before to a few minutes in, same thing happened with our first kiss, I was just so overwhelmed my brain short circuited.
Anyway it’s been a couple weeks and we’ve only seen each other twice since then and I was curious if making out would become a regular thing but it just hasn’t. We always end up cuddling in one our beds at the end our days together but she almost always has her head buried in my chest and I try to reposition so our heads are level and we can transition to kissing easier but she’ll just go back.
I could be incredibly naive here in saying that directly asking sounds so unsexy, and it should just happen naturally, but obviously it hasn’t. I can also try to be more deliberate and assertive and turn her to me and go for a kiss, but that’s just not me, like I’d feel so dirty doing that. The one time we did make out she got really into it and was very obviously enjoying it so I know she’s down for it. I’m just so confused an inexperienced, thanks for any tips/advice!
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Hey – you wanna make out? Easy
You can ask, “can I kiss you?”.
Saying it shyly may come off as cute
Hey – you wanna make out? Easy
That’s strange. Do you know if she enjoyed making out with you?
Everybody likes to be kissed differently. But there are some general “no’s” such as being too wet, too soft, or too rigid.
You could ask her how she likes to be kissed and then go from there.
You’re thinking about it way too much. Just kiss her and usually that will lead to more kisses which leads to making out
If she’s laying with her head on your chest kiss her forehead first to get it started
Shes your girlfriend, she’s obviously attracted to you so don’t be nervous
You don’t have to be laying down.. kiss her in the kitchen or something. Don’t over think it haha. Enjoy the nerves and the dopamine hit when you land the kiss!
Hey man, I was in a similar boat very recently so I can give some advice. It’s kinda sucky advice but I say just let things happen. I’m in a pretty fresh relationship, that’s also my first relationship and I’m 19. We haven’t been making out for too long, but every time we do, it kinda just happens. It goes from simple kisses and then the feelings take over and next thing we know, we’re making out. Don’t put too much pressure on initiating it, things like that just tend to happen at the right time on their own.