I \[M20\] and my gf \[F20\] we are in long distance relationship. Everything is fine between us, its just this one thing that she is never interested about me, like about my day). There’s not even a single day she had asked me how I am or how my day was, and on the other hand I ask her every single day how is she, is she good, and when I asked her about this that why isn’t she interested in my day, she says she doesn’t know, and really doesn’t show any interest. I really love this girl, but it bothers me that most of the convo which we have is only about her(approx. 98%). She says she loves me, and we talk like a lot, I know I am the one with whom she talks the most, so what could be the cause.
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tl;dr My gf isn’t interested about my day, and never asks about it.
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People are different, could be many reasons why. Like for example she is just the kind of person that don’t care about that stuff, maybe she thinks it’s always the same or obvious what the answer is. She could think that asking how your day has been is just shallow and she likes more deep conversation topics. Or she’s just not very empathic. Could also be what you are thinking and she just specifically don’t care about you. But don’t assume something. Tell her how you feel without trying to make her feel attacked.
It’s online so should be easy since you don’t have to face her as you bring it up.
I had the reverse with my girlfriend. What we realized was that we had different dinner conversation growing up, where she was used to talk at lengths about her day daily whilst I was used to way different topics like news and politics.
So it could just be that she has a different sense of normality in this regard and her love and interest just expresses differently.
Seems like you just asked her why she doesn’t, but then it just hangs there at a thing you do differently than her. She has gotten no reason to do anything differently just from that question alone. If it bothers you, talk about your need in this. She probably won’t mind asking you that if you tell her it matters to you.
I ask my girlfriend now and she asks me less. It is fine to just do what the other likes just for the sake of them liking it, just as long as it don’t hate doing it.