When did you realize you were self-sabotaging?

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1. I was sabotaging romantic relationships and I didn’t realize it until my early 20s. My insecurity was causing me to ghost women or breakup with them before they could realize I’m not worth being with. And I only stopped self sabotaging after I acknowledged all the insecurities that were eating away at me. But even that took years, I didn’t have a healthy romantic relationship until my late 20s. It took a lot of trust and vulnerability. Instead of pushing women away, I started opening up about the insecurities I was having that might push me away. And every time I thought that was the end of a relationship, the women in my life accepted me and still loved me. Even though those relationships still failed eventually, every time I open up or allow myself to become vulnerable I’m one step closer to being in a relationship with someone where I’m unafraid to be my complete self.

2. When I realized that I was too much of a people pleaser

3. When I was a teenager I pretty much started the process of ending the things I was good at, singing, sports, drawing and other stuff, I peeked early and I couldn’t push past it, so as i got older i just stopped trying hard for just about anything. It hasn’t helped.