Is it a new age sex thing for guys to wet their fingers and tease your butt hole during sex?

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1. It’s cause they are educated in more than one kind of pleasure – it’s prob during a deep make out ?

2. In my experience ladies are just way more open to ass play these days. I think men in general are becoming more sexually savvy as well, open to try new things and make the experience more female pleasure centric or at least balanced. 😅

   I’m sure porn has influenced societal behaviour to a great extent as others have mentioned. If not just made the topic more open to non-judgemental discussion.

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   As for why a guy might do this? Or an insight to my mind anyway.

   Imagine a guy on a date with a girl. They decide they’ll have sex. A discussion occurs about limits and safe words and the option of anal is discussed.

   She says, “I’m not really a fan of anal play but if you want we can try.” Or so something similar.

   Play ensues. A level of comfort is reached. And a wet pair of fingers starts to lightly press on your asshole while you’re getting stroked. Never really penetrating, just a pressure as two wet fingers explore.

   At one point in this process both parties suddenly recognize that maybe she’s more into anal than she thinks she is and an opportunity for a new sexual hunger is born.

   That’s why I do it. Haha

   However, some guys are just really obsessed with assholes. Huge kink for them. Which makes sense. It’s sexy to hear a yes please on things most of time are a no thank you.

3. People are just learning to be more open about new sexual experiences.

4. This is their way of seeing if you’re cool with them sticking something in your ass usually it starts with that finger and moves up from there by now I’m sure you know that

5. This isn’t new, it is just new to you.

   Go watch some 70s porn if you need confirmation.

   Yes, I know porn is not realistic, but outside extreme fetish videos, it is usually based on common behavior in the era and place it is made it. There have even been scholastic papers about how porn changes with the behavior of society, over time and geography.

6. Yup. It’s true. No other generations thought of touching an butthole before.

   When our ancient forefathers looked down at a woman’s ass during doggy style they thought “one day my offspring far in the future will blaze this trail”

   In all honesty I think internet is making the option more known, but anal play has been a thing since the cloaca.

   Edit: grammar and word choice.

7. Thumb in the butt during Doggystyle is how Uncle Timmy said my wife’s cousins were conceived. I don’t think it’s necessarily a new thing. I thought tossing salad was a younger generation thing until my 60 year old friend was offended I don’t do that with my wife. Maybe these things are just talked about more.

8. Anal has become a lot more common in the time you werent on the dating scene, sorry to be crude but almost everybody be getting they ass ate these days, never mind a little damp finger tip 😅

   Bluntness to illustrate exactly how common it is, over the past 5-10 years, people have slowly realised that your butt can actually make sex a million times better provided you’re both comfortable with it and it’s done attentively by both people 😅

9. Anal has become a lot more common in the time you werent on the dating scene, sorry to be crude but almost everybody be getting they ass ate these days, never mind a little damp finger tip 😅

   Bluntness to illustrate exactly how common it is, over the past 5-10 years, people have slowly realised that your butt can actually make sex a million times better provided you’re both comfortable with it and it’s done attentively by both people 😅

10. Tbf it was a thing almost 20 years ago

11. The ages you specified are all millennials. Gen Z oldest would be 24, youngest is 9.

    Many women enjoy that sort of thing, many don’t. It’s down to you to communicate that with your partners, how else are they going to know? Sounds like they are trying to make you feel good without any sort of hint or guidance to what you enjoy so it’s not surprising they are trying things. It’s nice they are trying for you. Time to communicate.

12. Most men are eating ass these days so this is not uncommon lolol

13. Obviously this sort of thing has existed forever, BUT it is WAAAY more common and even sort of expected these days.

    I don’t know why, but the whole “eating ass” thing just out of nowhere became massively more talked about in the past couple years.

    We used to call it “tossing your salad” back when it was a more niche kink.

    But as that got more widespread, anal play in general became more common as well.

14. 100% they saw that shit in porn and are trying it out.

15. IDK but dudes should be asking if that’s okay with the butt haver

16. As long as they aren’t going back and forth, double dipping

17. I’m 36 and have been doing this for 20 years, idk about ‘new age’

18. No this is thousands of years old.

19. >The guys I’ve been seeing have been from ages 26 – 33, 4 of them total, and without fail almost ALL of them

    >Is this a gen Z thing??

    I just came here to say that the age bracket mentioned are millennials (1981-1996) and not Gen Z. As mentioned in a previous comment “butt stuff” is less taboo. Which is great beacuse it feels great.

    Butt stuff for all who like it.

20. I was married for 25 years. Was very active before and after.. After started 3 years ago. Have GF the last year.

    Anal play is way more common now than in the early 1990s. It’s incomparable. Porn must have a lot to do with it. Seems every gal will experiment with it or at least talk about it. Full anal and ass eating is common now.

    Things have changed. For the better!

21. Not a Gen Z thing at all. Speaking from personal experience as an older Millennial, women have *asked* me to play with their ass during sex. It was their idea. Usually just on the surface, occasionally some digital penetration, but that’s about it.

    A female friend of mine, also not in Gen Z, told me once she enjoys anal sex more than vaginal sex. I’ve never personally been intimate with a woman like this, but I know for a fact that they exist.

22. Sometimes. People. Just. Don’t. Like. Anal.

23. I’ve been sexually active for 26 years (40F) and my b-hole has been a bullseye since day one! LOL

24. Nothing New Age about it.

    Definitely been around longer than Gen Z.

25. I’m not into butt play but guys seem to like it ? I’ve never wanted to try more so because I have issues with diet and get sick. So I couldn’t do foreplay with my ass . But a few times I’ve tried just to try.

26. I honestly don’t see why/how this is a “new” thing or a “generational” thing?

    I’m mid 40s and have been married 20+ years. My wife and I have done ass stuff for quite a while now.

    It’s fun. It feels good. And, as you said, “light” play is a nice way to explore and gain consent without having to outright ask.

27. Hi! Millennial here. 31M.

    I absolutely love doing this to females. I love female asses and playing with them. It’s most certainly not just a Gen Z thing. Rather probably just your luck of the draw. Sometimes I’ll even lick it first before playing with it with my fingers.

    Does it bother you? Or is it just Different for you?

28. Well that not a gen z age range the oldest a gen-z person can be is 24 so your dealing with a millennial

29. I think this isn’t something one should just assume their partner is into, so one should ask first, just a simple “want me to..?” Or “can I…?” But it doesn’t sound like a “weird” thing to do.

30. It’s relatively new. Before water was discovered buttholes were teased by dry fingers

31. Music, social media and porn all play a role I’m sure. I can’t recall any songs talking about eating booty before maybe around 2013 or so. Now it’s all over the place.

    Edit: I know rimjobs and salad tossing were around way before thay but it seems like buttplay are more mainstream now.

32. They get it from porn.

    So much porn on the internet.

33. New age? I know they don’t teach butt stuff along with world cultures, but c’mon now. You think anal was JUST invented?

34. Wet finger for anal and vaginal is a good idea.
    Wet finger / wet penis tends to enter more easily and comfortably.

    But people need to ask before the touch an Anus. I’m not a hookup dude so not in a position to comment on typical hook up stuff.

    Also porn is a reflection of what people are doing already that’s a misconception that porn is causing people to change it’s the reverse. Otherwise, it’s bad marketing if people don’t want to see it, it doesn’t sell.

35. Anal in porn is super mainstream, most guys will watch porn at some point in their lives and imitate it.

    Monkey see, monkey do, monkey finger covered in doo-doo.

36. I think so. As an older millennial the first guy who ever just dove into my asshole like a freak was 26. All my sexual life, None of the guys my own age went there.

37. I think it’s become more socially acceptable. I would definitely hope they are asking before just touching. Asking for consent is also a big thing nowadays…..

38. It’s men “learning” how to have sex from porn. It used to be “trial and error”, then suddenly every male over 12 has access to instant viewing of sex acts. And we all know how real porn is…

39. Unless you’re coming right out of the shower or maybe swimming, why would anyone want to put their finger on someone’s butthole? I’m Gen X and would never do this with a hook up

40. It’s one of my favorite things tbh

41. Guys. If you don’t want her to put a finger up your bum without consent. You should probably do the same for her.